One of my good guy friends has a crush on me. And I don't think it's just a crush. I think he's in love with me! Last night were talking on msn. Well actually it was a 3 way conversation with me, him & my BFF. But anyways my friend was talking about her crush and she said I love him! And then he said I Love You! And I was like, how can you just say that? He said its because he doesn't care what people think of him. And then he said "I freakin love you woman!" I was kinda speechless and I just said okay wow, easy there! And then he said "okay I'm gonna go" so i said okay bye. And then he said I Love you Amanda. And I had no idea what to say to that because I can't say I love you too because I like someone else & he knows who my crush is but he still likes me. I just dont know how to act around him or what to say when I see him tomorrow at school. What do I do?
2007-01-21 21:10:29 · 11 answers · asked by *Manda* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don’t feel the same, then be honest about it. Having someone love you is the boldest compliment anyone can pay you. Treat him with respect and with care. Understand how he is feeling, telling someone you love them is risky and not having them respond the way you want can really hurt.
Changing your behaviour around him will make it all seem worse than it is, let him know you still like him as a friend. And do this by keeping him close, as you always have.
2007-01-21 21:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is still your friend, so just be honest and tell him that that was nice of him to tell you how he feels about you but that you dont feel the same way... however you still appreciate him and you were wondering if the way he feels will affect your friendship.... if he is cool with it, then just act like you have always acted around him.
2007-01-21 21:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by notsure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women mature at different speeds and he has shown a little lack of maturity--treat it all as a goof---and then ignore it. DO NOT CARRY ON ABOUT IT---sounds like a funny little outburst that needs to be ignored---if he starts again---just say thank you and WALK AWAY. Maybe you shouldn't include him in on your 3 ways for a while.
2007-01-21 21:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't tell him explicitly that you don't feel the same way, he'll think that you do.
If you don't address it, he'll resent you.
You should tell him, "If I didn't have feelings for someone else, I may be into going out with you. But I just don't feel that way about you or anyone else but the one person that I'm currently carrying a torch for"
that way, he doesn't take it personally that he's not good enough.
and you cannot help who you like and who you don't like. it's just *is*. love is magic. can't control it, hun.
2007-01-21 21:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by artist_6000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him too, then I suggest you speak to him in person privately and question him if he was serious about his "love" remark. You should also be sure that "you love him" or else you may have to convince him that you two can stay as good friends.
2007-01-21 21:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by bhatian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the same as wat happened to me.i was on msn and talking to my best friend out of the guys and he just said ' i like u.willl u go out with me' i was speechless but i said ok and just kept never listened to it when he said it.after a while he just stopped
2007-01-21 21:16:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act normal and friendly as if nothing has happened.it's no big deal.take it wasy...things happen like that in friends circle every now and then...If he loves u...and u feel that u love him too...then go for it.Follow your heart.Good luck:)
2007-01-21 21:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to play it off kind of like he was joking (even though you don't think he was). Like just be like "well I don't love you.. j/k!!" or something that would show him you totally thought he was kidding and try to just let it pass.
2007-01-21 21:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly not wait to ask this question on this forum. Lol.
But hey, you've just won a man. He is yours, do what you wish to.
2007-01-21 21:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by Cyphor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear Amanda don't judged someone he saying i love u, from the Man, he must to say i love u face to face to believe him...
and if u not feeling love for him, don't say it, it's your choice and his to love someone loves her b.f ... don't worry don't say i love u, and don't lose your b.f .... good luck u are doing right keep going.
2007-01-21 21:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋