my son is just 2 1/2 yrs old but he is very stubborn how do i treat him?

Answer 1

you have to be more stubborn than he is. strong willed children need strong willed parents.

Answer 2

Join the club!
Mine is 26months and thinks he is the boss. I think it is rather normal that children of that age get stubborn and get angry and yelling. They're in a very possesive stage and think everything belong to them etc. I hear this from all my friends with children, and about in 1 year, most of the problems apparently are solved.

To help myself in this type of situations, I read a book of a child psych (Secrets of the baby whisperer for toddlers by Tracy Hogg and Melinda Blau) and for the rest I try to use my common sense and a lot of humour.

If he shouts, I tell him that I did not hear it very well, and whether he wants to repeat it. And I explain that it's easier to understand him when he speaks normal.
I tell him that big boys can go out with their parents because they ate their belly round so they can play an all afternoon because they became very, very strong.
He listens, but I invest a lot of time in him, playing, showing things etc.
I notice that the more time I spend with him, the calmer he reacts and the better he does what he has to do. (Like coming out of bath, going to bed, putting his toys away - we have a song for that one).

I adore my child but in some situations I just want tranquility and be able to work (I work at home) and then I give him a 3th chocolate or whatever. But I always tell him that this is an exception.

I don't know whether it is very helpfull, but if he not excepcionally difficult all the time and with other persons too, I would try to get through this stage without shrinks. He's a child and he will grow and understand you better and better and if you give a lot of support and some very clear rules, he will grow up normal and healthy. Look at the stubbornside of him as something that also can be positive. If he wants something later as an adult, he will go for it. It's a lot of character, but it will help him in his future too.
Make an agenda for yourself to find out objectively when he is really stubborn, and also note what you were doing independent from him, or how you felt. It will also help to put your problem in scale.

Answer 3

My son was also like this. He was dx with autism at age 4 tho. As a toddler he was a good baby. He didn't bother any one or anything. He used hand gestures or took me to show me what he wanted. My child was also different from yours when it come to the repetitive, social issue and food. He didn't like many people at all. If you wasn't around him almost daily he didn't like you. He had a fixation on old cars and even to this day he is very picky about his food. He has a fixation for McDonald's french fries. I would just keep a close eye on him as far as his speech but it sounds as tho he has met his milestones and speech is the only delay. I think he could be just a late talker.

Answer 4

Most kids that age are stubborn. That is why they are called the "terrible twos" He is learning to be independent. Allow him to decide some things for himself -- offer him two or three choices that won't matter to you. For instance --- does he want his sandwich cut in 2 pieces or 4? Does he want to wear the blue shirt or the green one?

DON'T ask him if he wants to do something unless he truly has a choice. NOT "Do you want to put your coat on so we can go to the store." In a case like that, just put the coat on him.

When it is time for lunch or some other change in what he is doing, give him a little time to transition. Tell him "In 5 minutes it will be time for lunch." That gives him time to finish what he is doing.

Most kids do grow out of this stage after several months. Try not to make it a power struggle. But you still need to be in charge.

Answer 5

Whatever you do don't let him rule over you. This is when the expression "Stick to your guns" comes in handy. Make sure you always let him know that you are the boss and there is a level of behavior he needs to learn to be at. I have a 4 year old that thought he was in charge for awhile until I was consistent with my discipline. Now he's the best little boy anyone could ask for. So it will take awhile for him to realize your the boss but he'll accept it sooner or later.

Answer 6

Like a child. He is a normal 2 1/2 yr old? Well then he is giong to be somewhat difficult. He's findind and testing his boundaries and he will do this for the rest of his life.

Answer 7

i had one of these.he is 19 now.he didn't grow out of it LOL.One good thing to come from it thoguh is his determination to suceed at being 3d animator. he decided when he was 7years old this is what he was going to do.at 16 he moved interstate after never being away from us before,apart from school camp in year 6. we follwed him LOL
But at 2 and a half it felt like he always wanted to do the opposite of what I wanted to do!
I always tried to give fair warning before I wanted him to stop doing somehting so we coiuld go somewhere or for whatever resson the activty he was enjoying had to end. i tried to give him a choice...you can go to bed or do "this" first then go to bed sort of thing.....i still got him to bed LOL
I could just never make him do anything quickly LOL (he is still like that )
one thing i can suggest is to explain everything before hand....this is what we are doing now .......and then....etc he seemed to behave betterif he new what was to happen rather than I jsut spring things on him.
good luck.........as I said stubborn will be a good trait later in life :)

one mre thing......sometimes I foundit very hard to be loving becaue we seemed to be at loggerheads.I found I really ahd to look for the good things and we started a star chart,w hich he really liked and was proud of at the time. the rewards have to be achievable and the behavious clear so he know what he is getting a star for. then I started smiling at him moreandhe got more hugs,i'm sure I used to frown when I saw him coming ,there for awhile!!!

Answer 8

Just give him lots of Love, Give him proper attention, Don't let him watch TV the Day long.

Very Soon U will find a lot of Change in him.

Answer 9

Treat him with love and affection. Talk to him about the consequences of his stubborn behavior and see if that has any affect.

Answer 10

Be grateful he's stubborn. When he grows up, he won't allow this vicious society to trample all over him.