... & that he tried & do it w/ other women, you cannot blame him coz you cannot offer sex due to your belief that you want it after the wedding. That he accepts & also like to do sex w/ you after the wedding, that he wants to respect you. He is trying to convince you that he's just doing sex w/ other women & not loving them, that love & sex is different. He is trying to convince you that you are the love of his life but also has a needs to meet, that other women are just for sex & no emotions involve. That the situations w/ you is different, that he loves you so much & cannot afford to loose you, but he is just one of the many guy who needs it also.
GUYS can also answer this!!!
2007-01-21 21:02:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what is your opinion about this situation???
2007-01-21 21:06:35 · update #1
Dear when we talk about marriage we are talking about something very serious and sacred ..your boyfriend attitude is not promising for successful marriage ..because while marriage many surprises take place ..you might travel or get sick and you will not be able to fulfill his sexual needs ..so he will find this an excuse to have sex and cheat on you ...
i think any guy who is ready to jeopardize his marriage or the relation with his fiance for the sake of sex is not trust worthy ... and think of you were in his shoes .and he traveled would he allow you to have sex?
and if you refuse to have sex before marriage because of your religious beliefs don't you think it is weired to be committed with a guy who commit adultery "according to your point of view " don't you like to be with a guy who share your believes?
2007-01-21 21:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Silent tear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women who are faithful enough to believe in not having sex before marriage wont understand the idea of having sex but not giving the partner their love.
I understand that guys have their needs but if they truly love and respect their girlfriends belief/religion he'd do the same as his girlfriend does: Wait patiently until the day of their wedding where promises nor hearts are broken. Its going to be something really special.
So in conclusion, having sex without no emotion involved will not be acceptable to those religious women.
2007-01-21 21:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him to go screw his hoochies and since I'm not fond of STDs, I'd dump him. He has a Madonna/Whore complex. Women aren't in two catergories. Ones that guys sleep with but don't respect and ones that guys respect and marry and only sleep with because they're married. He has no respect for women and guess what, a man does not NEED sex, he wants it. That just an excuse to be a cheating horn dog. I'd dump him so fast his head would spin and be thankful I didn't waste my time marrying such an idiot.
2007-01-21 21:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, actually it is possible for him to have just sex with no emotions or feelings involved..........and to love you at the same time.
I, personally, would not feel comfortable about him sleeping with other women.........I'd expect him to wait until the wedding, if he really loved me.
Hey, everyone is different though, just do what your heart tells you.If you can look past the fact that he's sleeping with other women, that's great! If it is bothering you, then maybe you are better off with someone else.............follow your heart ;)
2007-01-21 21:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to get lost. I would get another boyfriend. If he does not love you enough, respect you enough to wait until you get married, he isn't worth it. He will use the same excuse to have sex with other women when you are pregnant with your children. He will use it as an excuse to have sex with any woman he wants to. All women should be warned about this guy. He is an animal only.
2007-01-21 21:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him.but when you relate the story now i understand the situation.its the girl's mistake.because i believe when you enter a relationship you can not say that there is no sex on it.Love and sex are like sisters and brothers.its so hard not to have any intimate thing between the two of you.
2007-01-21 21:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are joking, right!? Where is you r sense of self respect!? What you do is smile sweetly and tell him you are just a typical girl that wants a decent, caring boyfriend and has no time for such losers. So Bye! and don't bother phoning, as I'll be too busy.
2007-01-21 21:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you that I would NOT marry a guy that tried to get me to believe that. No way. He should feel that you are worth the wait! You are waiting, so he should too.
2007-01-21 21:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him to have a nice trip.... if he is all that 'typical' he'll go get sex no matter how much he gets at home.
If he's really committed, he'll wait for what he wants.
2007-01-21 21:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by bakfanlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he thinks you are stupid!! If he is screwing around now he will be screwing around after you are married.
2007-01-21 21:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋