My hubby is serving overseas, and I havent seen him in 6 months. He is coming home very soon for R&R and I cant sleep and I cant stop thinking about it. We have 3 young boys who are also constantly thinking about it. I need something to get my mind off of this so I dont go completely insane and not get any sleep. Friends have suggested to sleep I should just do the typical, turn off the lights, ect. But that isnt working. Any suggestions on what to do to get to sleep and calm my nerves?
2007-01-21 20:28:02 · 13 answers · asked by armywifeftriley 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You need to get some hobbies. I knit to distract myself or read. Why not start creating your Christmas gifts....or redecorate a room?
2007-01-21 20:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by thatartistwin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply fall asleep in front of the t.v. When I can't sleep because I have too much on my mind, I turn on the t.v., and I'm in a coma in seconds. I also never actually watch t.v., I just use it as a sleeping pill. I find every show so boring, I can't stand to sit there for hours on end and not accomplish something. A hobby wouldn't hurt either, like sewing or x-stitch. Even a good book would do wonders.
2007-01-21 20:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if this would counter productive or not but i can say it worked for me. when my husband would come home from a long a hall. we'd decorate, making posters and cards. I'd write love notes and hide in them in places that he would look such as in sock draw or in coffee can. pic out some games to play as a family. line up a babysitter for a few hours and make plans to stay in or go out. get him a gift that only good wife would ;-) take a class/read a book on belly dancing or striping. then just a few days out I'd get me ready, hair, nails and good wax job or anything that makes you feel sexy. the hardest times seems to be right before they get back or right after they leave. i think it helped me because at the end it felt like i did i could to make him feel at home again. the only that i remember most about my husband being that long is the "honeymoon" that comes with him being home again. good luck
2007-01-21 22:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by lady_jane_az 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a normal, and a very good reaction. The boys can be cared for by your favorite care giver for one day. Go out and have a day for yourself, buy some hot underwear for your husband, have a massage, do some yoga. When hubby comes you will be refreshed and you can enjoy his company fully. When he leaves, again, you can sleep and tend your boys to occupy yourself until you and your husband are reunited again(hopefully soon).
2007-01-21 20:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by PartyTime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand precisely the way you experience, both week wait must be torture!!! I went by ability of 12 months of two week waits previously my postive. i'd continually rigidity and that i dont imagine it helped, till my very last month when I took time for myself. i'd take lengthy baths, watched chick flicks, examine a good e book and would have my husband %. up dinner some nights so i ought to lay and eat my prominent nutrients. Pamper your self, that can help to keep your concepts off issues. a at the same time as will come, perfect success by ability of your wait and sending you a lot of infant dust!!!
2016-10-15 22:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by vesely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a best seller book a real dramatic one that you can get caught up in easily and read each night before bed drink lots of camomile tea and have a hot relaxing bath and listen to some music, its real hard to keep your mind off such a thing so try and get caught up in the life of a fictional character from a book, itll help you relax and get you to sleep and take your mind off things
Goodluck
2007-01-21 20:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have your support systems available for you such as your friends and family. try also looking for distractions such as engaging into sports or crafting, anything that would make you happy. you also need to unwind somtimes, just go out with your friends and its so impt to share what you are feeling. be strong so your children would follow after you..
2007-01-21 20:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with the flow then and let it lull you to sleep. give in to it and accept it. that you'll be with him again soon and be happy. Peace Out.
2007-01-21 20:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by Finnis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try tylenol pm and a warm bath. i had to deal with my husband being gone a year, most of my daughters first year of life, during viet nam.
2007-01-21 20:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use this for myself and children when they/I have this same problem. lay flat in bed ,,, now you will think about your breathing ,,,,, in thru your nose , out thru your mouth ,, slowly,,,,,,,, now thighten all the muscles in (1) arm , holding it tighten for 5 seconds, then relax it and do the same with each limb,,. now do the same with your tummy,buttock muscles holding for 5 seconds or longer , relax.,,,,,, NOW do the same thing with your WHOLE body,,,,,,,,,,,( remember to breath).,,,, now relax and take in a deep breath in thru your nose , out thru your mouth , continue to breath and think about each breath. let me know if it helps you as it has my family .
2007-01-21 20:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by nra_man58 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋