well i don't have confidence in myself and i don't see myself attractive and i always think of myself unattractive and i think negative..........................
2007-01-21 19:59:14 · 10 answers · asked by ali 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know i sound stupid and retard but just wanted to know what is confidence............
2007-01-21 20:00:53 · update #1
Being secure with who you are. You have to know that you are who you are and no one is above you or better than you.
2007-01-21 20:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
People may have confidence in other people or forces beyond their control. For instance, one might have confidence in the police to protect them, or may have confidence that a sports team will win a game. Faith and Trust are synonyms of confidence when used in this sense.
Usually when someone is referred to as 'confident' they are referring to self-confidence. Self-confidence is faith in one's own abilities. People with high self-confidence typically have little fear of the unknown, are able to stand up for what they believe in, and have the courage to risk embarrassment (for instance, by giving a presentation to a large group of people). One who is self-confident is not necessarily loud, brash, or reckless.
Losing confidence is no longer trusting in the ability to perform. It may be reasonable as the result of past failure to perform, or unreasonable, because one "just has a feeling" about something or is having doubt.
Choking refers to losing confidence, especially self-confidence, just at the moment when it is needed most and doing poorly as a result e.g. in sports. This is found as a common plot device in literature and film, and is usually devised to result in a total alteration of a character's life.
Confidence in the face of danger is also known as fearlessness.
The states of confidence could thus be described as:
Overconfident: In the absence of anxiety a person could become reckless due to overconfidence. This state can be identified by the cognitive thought process of everything appearing rosy. An overconfident person doesn't see the need to consider all possible outcome and is sure the outcome will be what he / she has perceived.
Unconfident: An unconfident person on the other hand gets paralyzed due to anxiety. The person tends to have lots of self-doubts, becomes very critical about himself / herself and have low opinion of self (low self esteem). This causes a vicious cycle where the anxiety cripples the person into inaction, and he / she continues to berate herself thus creating more anxiety.
Confidence: When the anxiety is at an optimum level, you are at your best. You know that negative outcomes are possible, but rather than exaggerating or minimizing it, you give it the due attention necessary (what can I do if this happens ...). So perhaps a better definition of confidence is the state of balanced perceptions and preparation.
2007-01-21 20:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by genius_06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self confidence comes from within, you are an individual with lots to offer if you just see that. Stand tall, walk tall, speak nice, be a good listener, dress nice, act you age, study hard, be interesting, expand your horizons, learn something new and share it. Can't worry about what others think---you can't please everyone.Join clubs and meet new people. Treat everyone with respect and they will respect you. If you have nothing to say---say nothing at all. Be available to others and JUST BE NICE. Smile and have a nice life. Tell yourself you are number one.
2007-01-21 20:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what you do???
you work out a couple times a week, and run/jog, do some cardio a few times a week. it is AMAZING what some physical exercise makes you FEEL LIKE!!!
and in the morning, (this sounds really stupid but it works, trust me) tell yourself that you are good looking, that you are attractive, that you are a good kisser, that you would make a good mate, that YOU have what others DON'T. believe in yourself, and you will exume this belief, and soon others will believe in you too.
2007-01-21 20:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cofidence is a state of mind. If someone has agreed to go out with you, then you should have some confidence that they like you and would like to get know you better.
2007-01-21 20:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by RiddleMeThis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confidence is: be your self, like what god brought you to this life
do you live to be attractive or you live to be someone how
can proof his self, think that is 1 = 1 not 1 = 9.
2007-01-21 20:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence is a sort of courage that is with in you to activate any of your feeling supported by brain.....
2007-01-21 20:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by SESHADRI K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Genious
2007-01-21 20:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by toots 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/Confidence
go there XD
2007-01-21 20:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by thackpro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for you
2007-01-21 20:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Rivana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋