married for a year and i have known him for 5 years. every time he's the one who initiates it. i have tried twice by putting my leg over him but he hugged & said good nite. we only have sex once or twice a week or sometimes after a week. at times after he drinks a glass or two of alcohol, if i arouse & touch his penis, he responds by arousing me but gets me to ******* & that's all. we never have sex after i *******. so wondering if he has used me or did i do the wrong way? most times we dont have sex cause he goes to gym almost every day(me too) so he knocks out immediately when we are in bed. i dont have any galfren who ******* on their hubby or boyfren but there was once my hubby told me that if guys dont get ******* from their partner, they may seek for it outside. so fear of such thing may happen, i blowjow. i dont like doing it as i have ulcer at times, i feel like puking. but i control & hold my breath. at times, he even pushes his penis in and out of my mouth when i *******.
2007-01-21 19:56:27 · 17 answers · asked by disappointed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Other than effective communication and possible compromises that result, it would be good if you decide to spring him a surprise or two.
During your communication, try to find out from him too, what really arouses him.
Other than that, you could have secretly bought a really sexy piece of lingerie and suddenly wear it one evening to surprise him. Or, you could suddenly appear naked in front of him and start touching and kissing him all over.
However, if he does not respond to the above, or does not seem to respond well, then it's time for further communication. Try not to take it too personally when he rejects despite your efforts, but be open about talking it out with him.
2007-01-21 20:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, good sex is all about communication. If you want it, be vocal and ask for it. He's your husband, there's no need to be embarassed. I've found if you catch a guy offguard, they feel wanted and they LOVE that and are willing to do anything for you. You also need to tell your hubby when you're doing something that is uncomfortable or makes you sick. If your hubby or bf leaves you because you don't do a sexual act every once in a while, believe me, he wasn't worth having. No guy or girl cheats because they aren't getting it at home (that's a huge excuse!), they cheat because they're selfish and want to feed their ego.
2007-01-21 20:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling ,see whether something else is bothering him
a) Job stress
b) Any other relationship
c) Try to go by his advise 4-5 times, once he enjoying ,it may become normal.
Also try to sit with him & discuss it out.
If things do not work out , then be ready for bad news .Donot want to be devil's advocate ,but you may be in surprise that one day your husband would break a news of breaking the relationship .
2007-01-21 20:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by ramesh c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you husband is totally taking advantage of your weaknesses. He knows how to get to you by saying crap like "guys will seek it from others"....what a bunch of BS! In case you didnt know, a marrage is a partnership between two people who love each other and want to be with each other. The best way to get him to make love to you is to tell him you are not going to do that anymore. My wife doesnt really like to do that so I dont force her, which is more than I can say about your husband! But in doing so there are times when she initiates it and it is great! Bottom line....cut him off until he wises up!!!!!
2007-01-21 20:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by none 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seem that your husband does not respect you as his wife. It's a chap to said that a guy don't get blow j0b from their partner may seek it outside. A married couple should have mutual respect between each other, even in sex.
2007-01-21 20:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear something sexy, like a skimpy nightgown from Victoria's secret. Make sure there is light and tempting nudity, small lights,and turn off the TV. If it doesn't work the first night, make sure he wakes up with breasts in his face.
2007-01-21 20:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by Pristine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is the best way to solve your problem. Try to tell him what do you want / need . as a husband he must know that you also longing for something. Like also them they usually tell what they want to us so its just a 2 way relationship. Go Girl!!! theres nothing wrong with that..
2007-01-21 20:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by babytol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, having problems after only a year?
well, if you're too tired then try in the morning.
try different positions that make if easier for him (you on top) and try sexy talking, lingerie, or role play if he has trouble being aroused
basically, talk to him. let him know that YOU want HIM to be satisfied. plus, YOU want to be satisfied as well.
2007-01-21 20:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by thank you come again 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he doesnt satisfy you sexually and that you have heard that a lot of unsatisfied women seek satisfaction elsewhere
as far as him forcing you to do oral thats sad and unfair, every time he wants oral, tell him u want 69, u stop when he stops, then get on top and ride that thang girl lol
2007-01-21 20:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a girlfriend to hide in the closet and when the lights go out, team up with her get him in the mood.
2007-01-21 20:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Holden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋