i had a relationship with this guy from one and half year and there was no day we din't talk with each other in this one and half year of our relationship... we do have fights but we made up the next day..
but the last fight was different i found him very careless about me.. the way he spoke to me so i din't talk to him for one week waiting for his call and finally i called him back.. he told me that he is planning to get married to someone else his parents arranged for him.. i asked for reason. .he first said parents won't agree and later started complaining on me that i am too modern, i have friends and i'm outgoing ... it was very hurting... and is not happy with me
its 20 days by now i din't talk to him after that.. and everyday 24/7 his thoughts run on my mind.. there is no day i din't get tears for my eyes... i am suffering alot coz i got used to him alot... if i think of the word husband he is one who comes in my mind... i miss him like hell... should i call him and talk??
2007-01-21 19:37:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh dear, am really sorry... .. donot call him..if he says he is going to get married to someone else no point hanging on to him.. the more you talk to him the more you feel sad n hurt ...
it sounds like he has found a new girl and looking for an excuse to break up with you.. all the statements he made were mere excuses....
i know it's gonna take huge amount of willpower to restrain yourself from talking to him.. but donot call him.. it will be a waste ..
it is ok to cry as much as you want n let things go.. M Sure someone much better than him is there for you, who will value your love n won't break your heart ...donot waste time in thinking about a selfish person like him.. well after all it is his loss who let go off a person who truely loves him.
keep yourself busy.. remeber time is always the best healer .. you will get over it sooner then you think... first few steps are toughest... take care...
2007-01-21 20:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you call him, you'll only get hurt when he rejects you again and he will since he's getting married to someone else. Sometimes it sucks but you just have to accept the end of a relationship whether you want it to end or not. He's obviously telling you things that he finds negative about you for reason. Take the hint. I know it hurts and you miss him but, you'll only be setting yourself up for more rejection and pain the longer you draw this out. Let him have his arranged marriage. Chances are he won't be happy but, he is agreeing to it and you have to respect that choice. Don't call him. Go out with your friends, take up a new hobby and do all that you can to not think about him. It will take a bit of time but soon, you'll be wondering why you wasted so much time waiting on him. You deserve someone who isn't going to drop you at a moment's notice and jump into a marriage. Good luck.
2007-01-21 19:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think this person is worth it honsestly. what happens when you call him and are rejected again and it will be even harder than the first time. the olny way to get over someone is to not have any contact...TRUIST ME I KNOW!!
i understand there is the problem of his family arranging a marriage but a true man would stand up in this day and age and do what he belives is right. if he really loves you he wouldnt care what others wanted him to do. or maybe he belives so stronly in the family ways that there is no option to him to marry you even if he wanted to, in which case he shoudlnt have been leading you to ever belive otherwise.
its your choice but i think if he wanted to call or talk to you he would have! when a man is truly in love he will walk on broken glass just to be with the woman he loves.
one last thing...this was not your fault and you hadnt done anything any differently yet he started complaining about the way you are and probably have been siunce you started dating? thats not very nice. he sounds like ajerk and like he doesnt truly appreciate how wonderful you are.
2007-01-21 19:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling. Where the heck is he from? He dates you for a year and a half and suddenly his getting married to someone that was arranged for him. He had to have known that this was going to happen some day so he shouldn't have even dated anyone else especially for no year and a half. Don't waste your time calling him, all your going to do is make yourself look co-dependent in a bad way. Let it go and find someone that's not already engaged.
2007-01-21 19:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, he has decided.
He has decided to go with his parent's pre-arranged marriage plans for him and he has decided that you are too "modern" and "outgoing" for him.
Sadly, it is time to let go. No matter how painful letting go is.
But before you undergo the process of letting go, I suggest that you do this one shot call, better yet personal conversation with him. On this one shot event, you just tell him (even it be the last time) that "you still love him, very much and wish things did not break apart between both of you" and though his decisions are not very considerate of your feelings, you have to respect it and wish him "the best in life. Goodbye."
Girl, go ahead and talk with him this one last time. You deserve the closure.
After doing so, focus on your life, without him, and with the many wonderful persons you'll be meeting along the way.
God bless!
2007-01-21 19:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsey Azriel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good lord what a horrible situation---read the letter you wrote---doesn't it sound like a TV show?? get a grip and grow up. You need a job or a hobby before you get another boyfriend. Fights are the stupidest way to waste time and it is NOT a relationship when that's how you two communicate. Go get a book about finding and keeping a mate. You have lots to learn. Stay away from him---you sound pathetic and he's better off without you.
2007-01-21 19:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW
that is the absolute saddest story I've ever heard
maybe you should call him and clear the air
tell him how you feel don't let this relationship go to waste
tell him that you miss him a lot and that you dont want him to get married and that if he does that you'll let go of him with all the pain
but don't worry if he wants listen to his parents and marry some other person that's fine because its his loss
you should let love come to you and wait for that person who will love you for who you are and not find indifferences with you
P.S. Listen to your heart
2007-01-21 19:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Gelica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and see him face to face. (make sure you dress to knock his socks off- wife material not trampy; You need stylish) Tell him how you feel, and tell him that you both have to think about your future happiness. You want him to be happy, and believe that this happiness could be with you. Tell him that YOU want to marry him one day, and that you think that you could make them both very happy. Tell him that it is about time he lived his life and not his parents life. That if his parents see the two of you together then in time they will realise that you are happy.
If he believes that the arranged marriage could make him happy, then you need to get over him, and the best way to do that is to tell yourself that he was using you until his arranged marriage, and that he was never serious about you.
It sounds like you were full on, so I believe you have strong feelings for each other, but if he decides to follow his parent wishes there is nothing you can do.
2007-01-21 19:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl ,you'd come over this sadness feeling. Do not bend too much,it may break you. Do not try to be in a relationship where your partner does not support/understnad your feelings.
Feel ,he's trying to find excuses to get away from you. It's time to get away from something which form very first site looks trouble.
Try to busy yourself in few other things e.g. career ,job etc. Whenever the thoughts come, try to engage yourself in TV, work ,reading etc .You would overcome it.
World is beautiful, it ;s matter of time that you would find someone as caring like you arer.
Best wishes & best of luck
cheers
2007-01-21 19:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by ramesh c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is getting married, it might just be a good idea to try to move forward with your life. I myself don't see why anyone would want an arranged marriage but, different strokes for different folks. Your story is sad but, I'm sure there is a guy out there that will appreciate you and doesn't listen to what his mom & dad have to say about the subject.
2007-01-21 19:43:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋