I've been w/ this wonderful guy for 7 yrs. and we're planning to get married. But i'm starting to think that he might not be the one. I think I might be getting bored but how can I tell him this. He's not an easy person to talk to.
2007-01-21 19:30:25 · 15 answers · asked by what2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been with a wonderful guy for 5 years now - & sometimes i stop and think "Geez, what am I doing..." but then I remember that we have spent 5 years together & have built a life together - that you can't throw away so easily.
It's completely natural to have doubts - especially, when you have a wedding looming.
Do yourself a favour & be completely truthful: Sit down & think - imagine life without your b/f.... think about how you would feel... would your life be better?... Would you honestly be happier without him? or are there things that he does that just gets to you.
Now if you can imagine life without him (truthfully) then its best to cut the strings - however, if there is even a glimmer of doubt - you owe it to yourself & to him to evaluate things between each you.
You say he isnt easy to speak to - explain this to him calmly - don't attack just chat & express your concerns - a man that trully loves you & wants to spend the rest of his life with you WILL NOT TURN YOU AWAY.
Good luck!!
2007-01-21 19:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by alea_hc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well marriage is something sacred that alot of people take for granted these days. If can't see being happy with this person the rest of your life don't do it. But if it is jst that you are getting bored try new things beleive ot or not most guys are in to trying new things even when they never say it. Suprise him.! He will think all of it was for him but you will be helping yourself save a 7 year love. Congrats!
2007-01-22 03:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by oliphantheather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh he's not easy to talk to but he's wonderful? Think about it. Are you just nervous about taking it to the next level or are you really unhappy? It's normal to be "bored" sometimes, that is often a sign that things are going smoothly. But there is a fine line between bored and dissatisfied. Do you have things in common? Does he make you laugh? Does he forgive you when you make mistakes? Think hard before you let him go. A good man is hard to find.
2007-01-22 03:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs in a relationship without
marriage...Never marry anyone that you can see problems with
because the problems usually get worse after marriage..
2007-01-22 03:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your question? If you don't want to marry him, then break it off before all the wedding plans start. That is a lot of money to spend on something that you don't really want to do. If he is not doing it for you anymore, then move on and find someone who you can picture being happy with -- not just content with -- for the rest of your life.
2007-01-22 03:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step back and look at his qualities. Is he marrage material.
is he a good father
can he hold a job
does he have anger issues
can he take care of a home
can he take care of a house
can he take care of his finances
how does he treat you
how does he treat others
there is more to being married than getting along.
if you are having doubtes, talk to him. biblically he will be your own flesh as you will be his. if you caint talk to him about your doubtes then its not a good idea.
2007-01-22 03:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I were for you, you should never have doubt on the person you really love. Well, if you really love him, then you should always have trust for him. Nut, if things really don't go the way you wanted it, then, tell your partner immediately, and help each other solve this problem. And, if you really wanna end it all up, then you should, rather than to sacrifice HIS happiness for you...
2007-01-22 03:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by xander_champ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this some kind of pre-marital syndrome? my mother once told me that even on the day of marraige she was still wondering if she has made the right choice. well of course, she's now blissfully living well.
are you sure you want to leave him? think again.
2007-01-22 03:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have doubts, just tell him. Tell him why, and if he can't understand, lose him and move on. Too bad that you've been with him so long and now you're having them haha
2007-01-22 03:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by High On Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAM!! You've answered your own question!!!! Get out of this girl!!! OR, waste another 7 years of your life!!!
2007-01-22 03:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋