ok here goes...have just found out the guy i,m supposed to exclusivley dating has joined a dating site..how do i know he messaged my friend who is on there ..his profile is saying he wants to meet someone special..i,ll take it that means i,m not the special one and he,s still looking around.
what do i do now? tell him i know about him being on there or what?
am devasted over this .....
2007-01-21 19:28:46 · 26 answers · asked by hawthorn330 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just move on and don't be devastated. find someone for whom you will be special. It's that simple. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
M
2007-01-21 19:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, he could have put his profile up before he met you. Many websites show you when the person behind the profile logged on for the last time. If this was before he met you, dont worry and ask him to take his profile off. If he has recently logged on: then ... well ... If he that serious about you ( read the sarcasm), then you should take you destiny in your own hands and let him go. You worth more then this, honey! Just - I know it is hard - leave him as why would you like to stick around with someone who clearly wants to see other people on the side?
PS: are you sure it is him, though?
PS: Maybe you shoudl test him by putting your profie ( false name of course) and send him a message. If he writes back, you know enough.
2007-01-21 19:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by MM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea this happened to me about 4 months ago.. it pissed me off, and I went straight to him about it.. which might not have been the best idea. If I could go back.. I would create a profile on the same dating site, and talk to him, and get him to like you, WHILE continuing your relationship with him as normal, and THEN WHAM!!! tell him, break his heart, and dump his butt on the internet and in person lol
or you could create a profile, and get him to love you, and chose to meet up, and then YOU show up and ask him WHAT THE HELL? LOL
good luck but have fun playing games with him because he's playing games too
2007-01-21 19:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by natalie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Definately you need to ask him about this - as well as being hurt over him being on there in the first place you can further add to your reason by telling him foolish you felt when your friend told you your boyfriend had hit on her.
Hes obviously not a good guy to be seeing you and carrying on like this behind your back so all i can suggest is ditching this jerk and finding a guy that is worthy of you.
Of course you're going to be upset - but wouldnt it be worse if you were oblivious to his lying and never knew about the scores of girls he could be potentially seeing behind your back?
Good luck hun
xx
2007-01-21 22:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could he have joined whilst single, and its only just cometo your attention? Alot of these sites are easy to sign up to, but not so easy to un-subscribe. Ask him if he wants a relationship with you or not. Ask him to be honest with his answer. Hearing it from the horses moth, witch ever way it goes is better than reading to far into somethings sometimes.
2007-01-21 19:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So join the dating site to and find yourself another date! Classic! Im sure he will see you on there and realise he has been found out!
2007-01-21 20:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by peachy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should answer his profile and play him for the fool, Why not he thinks his playing you so have fun with this. Just go along with everything he says. You already know alot about him so you can stay a step ahead of him. Girl I know I would.
2007-01-21 19:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be using you till something better comes along.
And your friend knows, making the whole situation untenable. Unless he placed the advert before he met YOU of course.
Give the guy a chance to explain and also to get the advert OFF.
2007-01-21 19:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by Not Ecky Boy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first make sure that he joined this site after he met you and not before .
while chatting with him tell him that a friend of urs just find out that her bf was seeing her and also was searching in the net while he was with her and see how he reacts ....
2007-01-21 19:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, maybe he put it on there before he met you and the message to your friend was delayed or something I don't know how fast these on line agencies work but it could be that or his mates taking the mick with him.
Just talk to him and see how he reacts that is all you can do
Good luck x
2007-01-21 19:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋