sometimes my mom is really mean. she says im lazy and fat but I am not any of those. Then she turns all nice and she makes me food and cleans my room folds my cloths! I dont get her.
Is this normal behavior to act horible then be totaly nice the next mintute?
2007-01-21 19:03:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Its not "normal," no. But it does happen.
Your mother is showing signs of bi-polar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and other chemical imbalances.
The best advise I can give you comes from living with MY mother for 25 years and dealing with her issues like the ones listed above.
First off- understand that your mother REALLY CANNOT control herself. She doesn't even see what she's doing as "Wrong." And, I'm sorry to say, she never will see it as wrong until she gets some medication. That may not happen.
Secondly - understand that no matter what you do, you cannot take this personally!! It is very hard, I know, but please try.
Thirdly - Please ask your mother or father to get you into therapy. This is not because YOU did anythign wrong. It is because you need a professional to help you understand how to work through your mother's issues.
Lastly- please do the best you can to try to not fight with your mother. Its very hard but you will never win an arguement with her. Even if you are 100% right, you won't win. Its a very hard thing to learn how to do (I can't even do it somedays!) but it will help you when you learn to throw up your hands in defeat and just let the fight go (assuming you can't avoid starting one in the first place.)
Find a therapist that can help you communicate with your mother. That is the best advise I can give you.
If you do find this therapist, hopefully they can speak with your mother about putting your mother on medication to help with her chemical imbalance.
PS: I'm not a Dr. It just SOUNDS like that's what she's experiencing.
2007-01-21 19:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by kerrisonr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all answers sound great, but maybe you need to look at yourself a little too, sounds like your mom got upset about your rooms condition, blew up, then,instead of apologizing, she does your work for you.(her way of apologizing).what really bothers me is the fact you say "im not fat and lazy".then she is nutso for cleaning a clean room.sorry ,but you can`t have it both ways.
2007-01-22 04:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes. yes its very normal for women to have mood swings.
now if shes in her 40's thats probably the start of menopause. if not than dats just normal pms. anyways your mom is still very normal its just her hormones are the boss of her right now.
2007-01-22 03:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by fisticuffs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
haha sounds like she's going thru menopause...that usually occurs between the ages of 45 and 55.
2007-01-22 03:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am only saying this because I am a mom but maybe that is her way of motivating you!! Not that how she is going about it is right but maybe its the only way she knows how?? Why dont you try reaching out to her and see if that makes a difference!
2007-01-22 03:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
could be mood swings is she going thru menopause? she may need medication for the symptoms....good luck
2007-01-22 04:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by susieq 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your old enough to be writing here, then your old enough to clean your own room and take responsibility for your things. If you don't do these things, then why not? I can see why she gets upset.
2007-01-22 03:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋