What do you think of this idea for reducing the number of failed relationships (especially marriages)?

Question

I'm just throwing this out there, and it's probably too practical of an idea, but that's why I like it. When we apply for a job, we have to be interviewed, take tests, sometimes physicals, polygraph tests--to make sure we qualify for the job, and all just to be able to earn a living. When we become someone's mate (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, whatever) it's probably the most important job we will ever perform in our lives, yet we don't interview each other to make sure we are compatible and qualified to be someone's partner for life. We think too much with our hearts and not enough with our heads, and base our acceptance on physical attraction, when that is usually the easiest and most obvious factor. Just think of how much time, effort, tears, fears, and money we could save if we would be a little more practical in our approach to relationships, especially if we were looking for a marriage partner. And please don't attack me for not being romantic, because I'm very much so.

Answer 1

It's a great idea, and it already exists. It's called premarital counselling, and you can get it from a relationships counsellor or pastor with relationship training.

I think if everyone had counselling BEFORE they got married, then there wouldn't need to be so much counselling AFTER marriage.

Answer 2

"yet we don't interview each other to make sure we are compatible and qualified to be someone's partner for life" What do you think DATING is for dear? I guess that one just went over your head right? This is WHY you should get to know all of the "little" things about your partner BEFORE becoming intimate with them...that is WHY you don't jump into bed with a guy on the third date only to find out a month or so down the road that you can't stand one another oh but wait ...someone is now pregnant. It's not the MARRIAGES that are the problem...it's what goes on BEFORE the marriages, the getting sexually involved before they even KNOW each other that is the problem because, and correct me if I'm wrong it is STILL sex that produces pregnancies...and yeah the girl may be the hottest thing the guy has ever had in his life and the guy may say the most wonderful things...but if that's all you know about one another and that is what you are basing your relationship on your marriage is going to fail. That is WHY young people should date LOTS of people to get a REAL picture of what they are looking for and that when they find (or think they have found) what they are looking for they need to date and get to know that person BEFORE they jump into bed and possibly create another life they need to know BEFORE they decide that ewwwww he doesn't always make the toilet bowl when he pees or yuck she puts this goop on her face at night that smells like burnt rubber. It's the little things

Answer 3

I think we've all thought about this at one point or the other, especially after being heart broken. You're right to a certain extent, it is the most important job of our life, but it's also a job that involves our feelings, unlike our professional jobs where feelings should not interfere. A relationship is work in progress, you don't stop working at it when you feel comfortable, you have to work at it every day and that's what makes for a long lasting relationship/marriage. The interview really is the first date and that's pretty much when you determine based on chemistry, attraction, behavior, etc. that the other person displays whether or not you want to pursue it.

Answer 4

Great idea...in fact, take it a step further: let's all go back to the days when parents chose the spouse from a pool of available applicants, like cows at an auction! That way, you'd be sure to get a healthy, well endowed(financially) filly of child-bearing years and if you didn't really love her, you could go to the local saloon and see Miss Dixie every Friday night...

Answer 5

You are very true. I had been shouting at my guy friends at the top of my voice for only looking at gals skin deep then come back complaining that all gals are bitches. Isnt that hypocritic? Well one has to sincerely feel to fall in love. Sometimes i feel true love dun exists anymore. Its all about mere good looks.

Answer 6

AMEN!!

Seriously, most people can be shallow or unreasonable when it comes to love-- For example:

"Ohhh, he's got dreamy eyes.... I'm in love!!"

"She's the perfect size, got a great smile...I'm in Heaven"

Compatibility is definitely key--- Beauty fades, and too many of us are just too naive and think that somehow we wont mind "watching" it fade. ---Heck, why do you think old married men lust after young women.

Answer 7

once you're sorting out somebody for job your innovations is sparkling and you will additionally make deceisions in keeping with info that are given to you in resume and in keeping with results of attempt, yet once you're in love, it relatively is like interviewing somebody for job mutually as being inebriated. purely risk of bobbing up top deceision and ending up all needed exams and interviews mutually as connecting your existence to somebody is in case while there is an arranged marriage, your innovations is sparkling, you haven't any longer any attachements to that guy or woman and you will decide for wether or no longer he/she is acceptable for you. yet are you confident you choose for to spend your complete existence with individual which you're no longer in love with? i might nevertheless take of project, i might decide for to screw up, possibly some day i will locate out that this isn't the guy I could be with and divorce, yet nevertheless on the top of my existence i could have "no regrets" using fact I lived an entire existence, I made my own blunders, I felt, I cried, I enjoyed.... there is not any complete existence without blunders, than it is not a existence it relatively is existance!

Answer 8

Isn't the whole process of dating just one extended interview?

Answer 9

That would take out all the fun of it. might as well date a robot.