My girlfriends have always gone to my games of their own free will to support me. My new one flat out says she doesn't want to go. She knows it's important to me, but I also said I don't want her to go if she isn't going to enjoy it. So she doesn't go. She said she would show up just so she won't feel guilty, but I don't want her to go and view it as a chore. Shouldn't she naturally want to support me? I mean, all of the other guys girlfriends go every week and seem to enjoy it, why can't mine? Should I force her to go and hate it, should I suck it up and deal with it, or is she just being selfish? What do you think?
2007-01-21 18:26:17 · 8 answers · asked by Dan J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some things to keep in mind. I'm not looking for something to do with my girlfriend, I'm looking for support. I wouldn't want to go to an opera with her, but if she was in one, I wouldn't miss it. Also, participating in a tea party is different. I don't expect her to play hockey, I just want her to watch.
2007-01-22 16:14:32 · update #1
How serious are you about this girl? It is a good thing that each party have their own interests, but it sounds like this is a really important thing to you. Have you talked to her about why she won't go? Is she scared something is going to happen to you? Or does she just not like the sport? Is this something that you are willing to give in on and just accept, or is this a major sticking point for your relationship? If hockey is a major part of your life, then she should be going. If it's not, and there are other things that she does support you in, then let this issue go. If it's that important, and she won't go, let her go.
2007-01-21 18:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if she was into tea parties with old ladies and said she thought it was a gas, you should go...would you be open to the idea of going to them weekly? Be reasonable; everybody is NOT into hockey or baseball or even basketball games, as much action as they seem to have these days. Ever hear of having different interests and enjoying other things together??? I'm into extreme sports and usually can't get a girl to go flying or scuba diving or skydiving with me...don't even mention golf! I just do them alone or with people that DO want to hang out. When she sees less of you as a result, maybe she'll change her mind. Or, maybe you'll meet a hockey fan at a game and she'll become history...
2007-01-22 02:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she's being selfish.Just honest.Say she loved the opera and you hated it. Would you still go.I don't think couples need to do everything together.If this is the only bone of contention in your relationship I'd let it slide.I think over time she would end up resenting you for making her do something she doesn't want to do.Have a boys night out and enjoy it.
2007-01-22 02:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by Henry B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a girlfriend who is honest and knows what she likes and doesn't like and isn't afraid to tell you so.
If it is important for you to have arm-candy at your sporting events, then this girl is definitely not for you. And, I doubt that you are the guy for her if your ego requires her attendance at the alter of sports.
Time to evaluate your relationship with her and ask some hard questions about your own wants and needs.
2007-01-22 02:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it really that important she goes? If that isn't what she is into, you should just deal with it or find a girlfriend with the same interests.
2007-01-22 02:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by T G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one is already on the way out honey...If all you want is casual sex go for it but if you want something that will last you need to be with a women who supports you, gets excited for you, takes pride in you and who loves hockey! :*
Really...who doesn't love hockey? crazy....
2007-01-22 02:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by kirstigem 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do nbot be an idiot if she does notwanna go let her stay coz she should only do what she feels like doing coz u may just **** it up unless u consinder her coming important than actually being with her
2007-01-22 03:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by vakere2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a dose of her own medicine.
2007-01-22 02:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋