...but can you give any tips for a lady to turn down a guy gently without totally bursting his ego bubble? Ex. if the guy is persistent and she doesn't want to be mean. He's not obnoxious, just a bit of a pest.
2007-01-21 18:14:40 · 18 answers · asked by Teoshe 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
To Bo Jangles: You sound a hostile; sounds like you've had more than a few rejections, bud.
2007-01-21 19:17:32 · update #1
...a little hostile.
2007-01-21 19:17:56 · update #2
just tell him in very plain terms that you are not interrested. being nice to him gives the impression that you are playing hard to get, and can lead to more advances. and possibly (depending on his mental state) a stalker situation.
2007-01-21 18:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything between what Chris G and Jack D said will be just fine. Make it polite but in no uncertain terms. Lets face it. If he cares about you a lot it's going to hurt no matter what you do so you will have to anticipate something regardless how you handle it so just be direct and leave no indication there is any further relationship available.
2007-01-28 14:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by Braveheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have never rejected anyone but have been on the other side and am glad that you are being thoughtful not to hurt the guy.there are many polite ways you can put down a guys demnds for this one especially :].just tell him you are gay.that always works.or to be more serious ttell a lie.nothing wrong in it as long as it is helpful.tell him you are i don't engaged to your childhood friend and take along a gay guy not a straight one cause then the problem will shift to him.he will br a little hurt thats something unavoidable but not as hurt as he would be if you tell him to **** off or something or get him beaten up.
2007-01-29 07:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by sweet is my code name 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pull him to the side in a social setting(i.e. lots of people around) and say to him in a lowered voice: "Look. I don't want to hurt your feelings or embarass you, which is why I'm saying this to you in private instead of outloud. I'm not interested in dating or having an intimate relationship with you. If you'd like to remain codial, please stop asking me out/pestering me, or things will get unpleasant. I'd rather that not happen, wouldn't you?"
2007-01-22 02:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pests need squashing....just hope he's not some crazy serial killer wanna be.
Let's see...they tell me....go away..leave me alone....f*ck off.
I'm ok with that...really...She fell out of window but she did almost hit the 10th floor deck and barely missed the pool.
2007-01-22 02:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't. Take it from one who knows you have to make up some lie..ex. I'm gay (just discovered) i'm moving and we should do whats best and stop seeing each other 'cause it hurts to much. If you don't want to lie then your just gonna have to break the dudes heart but remember..he will live. he will go on.
2007-01-28 18:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by little3nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him plainly, calmly, and in the nicest tone possible that you are not interested in pursuing any kind of intimate relationship with him.
Be direct.
2007-01-22 02:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by ___ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you just gotta be a *****. i hate resorting to that but some people just cant get a clue and read between the lines. because usually theyre morons.
2007-01-23 23:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by xtal6872 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely tell him that you are not interested in getting involved in a romantic relationship, but that you would appreciate his friendship instead. Most likely, he will move on.
2007-01-28 12:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
who on earth likes rejection ..............?do you like to be rejected ... i, know i do not like the feeling of being rejected .......what woman have that men lack men lack the ability to communicate with one another .gossip is usually what woman live for men we dont even stop to ask for directions! rejection is like fuel to the fire my advice you can either use it as strength to get your assback from the rejector take a little time nurture yourself realize that whatever reason for rejection you will be sure not to go down that same road again
2007-01-22 02:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by bo jangles 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋