Every year my girlfriends mom has a birthday dinner for my girlfriends daughter. Every since she realized that I was enough of a factor to possibly damage the amount of controll she has on my girlfriend, she has not liked me,and hence, has not invited me to the dinner. Should my girlfriend go with out me? Should I ask all of them not to attend? I now have a child with my girlfriend so should I let out daughter go with out my being invited?
2007-01-21 18:04:58 · 16 answers · asked by drbrian247 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hello,
Dont go. If you really love your gf, try to understand her mom too. Besides, why do you have to rush the "trusting" process. You have to be patient to earn your gf's mom's trust. It may be painful and time consuming but I believe it is better that way.
Patience and careful understanding of the situation is far better than being a rude uninvited guest. However, just to make sure that your gf's mom gets the point. Buy a simple gift for your gf's daughter and then ask your gf to give it to her on that day.
So that your future mother in law, knows you respect her form of family privacy.
hope this helps.
2007-01-21 18:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by GorbanZus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your girlfriend needs to step up to mom and tell her that you are part of her life and her childrens, a family who will not be separated because of gf's mothers likes and dislikes. All go or none. Celebrate the girls birthday at your house instead invite grandma and with or without her have fun
2007-01-21 18:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by firefighter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her and then it will make it too difficult to NOT invite you. Is there another reason though, is the girl's father not wanting you there perhaps, is your girlfriend's mom protecting him or the girl from complicated and harmful situations? If she's not and just being difficult then buy a ring.
2007-01-21 18:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by jimstock60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you had sex and a child with the daughter, and dishonored her by not marrying her first speaks volumes about your lack of moral character and inability to be trusted.
I bet that is more of the issue.
She already had one jerk stick her with a child out of wedlock and now you do the same thing?
2007-01-21 18:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by doodad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let your girlfriend handle that situation. Its her mother. She should stand up for you especially if you also have a child together. Tell her you want to be invited because you are apart of their lives and it hurts your feelings. Besides imagine what your child thinks if they all are welcomed but not you.
2007-01-21 18:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by kamsmom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont forcr freindship.If she doesnt like you it means she doesnt.Dont force yourself on her.With time she might accept you.At the moment just leave daudgter and mother alone but for your daughter you have a right to say no she cant go or yes let her go.That is up to you.
2007-01-21 18:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man. Marry the mother of your child and become a family, then you and your wife set the terms of your relationship with each other, and with your in-laws.
Until then you will just be a boy.
Be a man!
.
2007-01-21 18:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by non_apologetic_american 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend needs to grow some peaches and stand up for you. At this point you are family to them. They need to treat you with a little bit of respect. She should not allow them to exclude you from things like that.
2007-01-21 18:17:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the mother may not like you because you had a child with her daughter but have not respected her or your child enough to marry her.
2007-01-21 18:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stoop to her moms petty level. Either her mom will accept things or she wont. Yes let your daughter go; children are not pawns in the petty nuances of immature adults.
2007-01-21 18:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by llloki00001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋