Is it rude to tell someone they aren't a good lover?

Question

What if you've been dealing with it for three yrs..and don't want to cheat or leave?How else can this problem be solved?

Answer 1

teach them what you like

Answer 2

i suggest that you tell him how you feel but be honest with you if he has been with you for three years and you guys still aren't having good sex then you are a bad lover yourself. You have to make a man know what you want I don't mean to try to be wearing the pants in the bed room but a little secret men aren't mind readers. Some of your love making is suppose to be by now understood and great because they say practice makes perfect so you have a part to blame. Honey if my hubby isn't doing it right or the way I want it he would definitely know you have to take charge some times. Don't go out rigth and tell the man that he isn't good in bed you now have to do your job and teach hi your likes and dislikes. Also I want you to know it is much more when it isn't just sex and when it is love making. You share a great part of each other and that is what makes it not good or fantastic but perfect

Answer 3

Nothing like good old fashioned communication. Honesty is the best policy. You don't have to be rude. Use guidance-oral and physical. In other words tell them what you want and how you want it, and then be willing and able to show them what to do to please you. If you can make them into a better lover and have them think they were great all along, you will have done a wonderful thing for both of you. You may also incorporate the Kama Sutra and sex manuals by Masters & Johnson-which can be found in bookstores.

Answer 4

You could do it rudely or politely. Decide how much strain you want to put on the relationship first. Then share with him, talk with him, communicate as best you can. Good men have enough depth of character to accept criticism. If he's the type who cannot take criticism, you might want to reconsider leaving.

Answer 5

Offer assistance. What I would do is say...honey... I want to pretend to switch roles...There are many things I have always wanted to share with you. let me show you some things I like. Ask him to remain silent and observe only. Then you enact what it is you are looking for. He'll get the hint. Maybe add some movies, or toys...whatever it is you like. Ask him for his fantasy in return. But be prepared to try anything.

Answer 6

yes of course its rude.

it is better when you encourage good behavior. " gee! i really enjoyed it the other night when you did this and such." or " you know what i think might be fun if we tried this and such>'

married lovemaking is usually the best but sometimes you will hit snags and the woman is in charge of the romance because they usually read so many more novels on it then men.

Answer 7

Yes, but it can also make them become a better lover. If they don't know, then how do they know they need to improve.

It would be better said in a nice manner, with some constructive suggestions on how to improve. It should also be kept to yourself, don't spread rumours.

Answer 8

There's a really good saying out there. "It's not what you say, it's how you say it." So no it's not rude to tell him, it's just the way you approach the situation. Don't be too harsh and tell him what u think he is doing wrong.

Answer 9

Wow, your in a spot Huh?. I guess you can just make suggestion to him/her. Do the trial and error thing. You should of said something sooner tho, it might of made things easier for you than.

Answer 10

very rude but i agree this is frustrating. tell the person or teach or if ur all that fed up just leave.

Answer 11

Instead of telling them and hurting their fellings and having them never wanting do it ever again. Atleast for awhile because they are pissed. Show them how you want it. Say hey I want to try this.