i think my boyfriend is looking at other women...?

Question

i have been in a realtionship now for a year when i meet my fella i was 3months pregnant with another mans child but he still wanted to date me and we both feel in love we are so happy toghther im the first women he has ever feel in love with and i no he is 100% devoted too me but i still get the feelin that when we are out he is lookin at other women or when we watch tv he is gettin turned on by watchin women. only one thing about him is he is very jealous i cant even go out with my friends anymore or recieve a message without him lookin over my shoulder. do u think im beenin parniod or what should i do

Answer 1

No. you are not being paranoid. He is a man and a human being, just as you are a woman and a human being, being in a relationship does not change any of those facts, women are going to find an attractive man attractive, and men are going to find an attractive woman attractive. If you feel like he is 100% devoted to you, then don't worry about that. What you should be worried about is helping him get over his jealousy issues.

Answer 2

Can I spell it out for you-----CONTROL FREAK---that's what he is. He spotted you a mile away---he knew how the game would go--be nice to the pregnant girl....play nice guy....then start the abuse and it just will get worse. First you need to admit that this is happening, second is it is wrong and third--you will not tolerate it anymore. If the guy has a lack of respect --it is shown by the looking at other girls, and the lack of privacy. You can try to talk but it will not work---if it does it will just start over again---GET AWAY AND FAST!!! He has used the best lines he knows to fool you into thinking he is Mister 100 percent love--you are 100 percent fooled----he knows how to keep you hooked---and it only will get worse. GET AWAY. NO talking--just go---he'll find someone else.. He probably will say he's helping with the baby---he is paying to abuse you--GET AWAY. He says you need him and can't do any better than him,he's the best---NOPE__GET AWAY. You need to live life as you wish--it is a free country. Good luck if you decide to stay--don't say I didn't warn you.

Answer 3

Heres a rhetorical question. Your man has been turned on by many many women, either visually or physically, before meeting you... so what makes you think that's going to stop just because you're going out?

There's nothing wrong with getting turned on by other people. What is important is where his heart is at. If he's with you, and things feel right, and you know he isn't going anywhere, it shouldn't matter if he is turned on by other people, because you know he's not gonna run off.

Answer 4

If you guys are in love as you say THEN IT IS TIME TO TALK AND GET THE FEELINGS OUT.
Don't let anything stew. bring it out in a calm manor and talk. NO yelling or screeming. JUST take the phone off the hook and hide the cells and tell everyone you are not going to be home , that way you will have totally undivded attention to each other.

Answer 5

Guys look... if I found a guy that really only had eyes for me, shewie!! Most of the time they try to do it so no one notices, and some don't care who sees them looking. Some of us have to settle with the fact that it's okay to look but not touch.. although the looking can make you feel less attractive, but honestly it has nothing to do with you.
What I would be concerned about is his jealousy, that may get worse over time.

Answer 6

Sweety, you have nothing to worry about because all guys are like that. It's just that some make it more obvious than others. If you don't like how he looks or checks out other women in front of you, then scope out guys when you're out with him. It really works because then he'll know how you feel when he looks at others. Good luck!

Answer 7

we man are like that. but it doesnt lead to cheating. if he has teh heart of a cheater he will cheat, if not, dont let it ruffle your feathers.

you notice good looking guys too? we cannot censor our vision, but can avoid glaring. so relax and know that when he looks at girls, they see him... and YOU. they will be jealous of you for having what they want.

but about the control he has over you. stop it now or live like this forever. you are not his toy, his dog, or his i-Pod, you are his partner, and that is by your consent. remind him of this. the other thing is that a cheater WILL fear you are cheating too. people base opinions on their experience, so maybe he isnt the prince after all, just the frog.

Answer 8

hey, thats my b/f exactly.... only thing is.. hes not really my b/f anymore. Thats what guys do, as much as we hate it, when a guy see's an attractive girl they cant help but look, just like if we see a good looking guy on tv or at the mall we notice them too... if you really care for this guy and want to be with him then maybe you should tell him that it hurts you ( i went off at my b/f and he denied doing it) but dont keep getting mad because he is just a guy and its what they do, i kept getting angry and annoyed at my b/f and then he got sick of it and broke up with me.. so dont make my mistake. your boyfriend is with you because he obviously loves you, not the girls he looks at. as long as its only looking and no touching, its okay...
but, if its bugging you that much maybe he's not the right guy for you, and you need your friends, i have no friends anymore because of my b/f, just think about what you really want, you have 2 people to think about now. goodluck

Answer 9

Of course he's going to look at other women...he's human. There's something wrong with him if he doesn't. I'll bet that you look at other men. If he really loves you then there is nothing to worry about. If he is jealous, talk to him and tell him how you feel.

Answer 10

Your not paranoid....lol. All men look at other women.Although it's not right for him to get jealous of you.I've learned that lesson with my husband.He claims he doesnt look at other women but I've caught him several times.Have a talk with him and tell him how your feeling.