2007-01-21 17:26:52 · 23 answers · asked by carole p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do em both until your decision is clear.
2007-01-21 17:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by charlie at the lake 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I really feel for you being in this situation, its not what we would choose that matters at the end of the day it who you would be happier with, think long and hard before making a decision try to make the best one for you, do you even love the man you live with, does the man that's 14 years younger than you love you and is he old enough to know really what he wants in life yet, my husband is 11 years older than me and we have been together 20 years and i love him the same if not more than i did then, everyone tried to tell me this wouldn't work, but at the end of the day its your heart that's going to be broken if things dont go right, so do what is best for you. At the same time think of both these men, one of them if not both are going to end up hurting too so try to do things so you hurt them the least you can, i wish you all the luck in the world with your decision xx
2007-01-22 03:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by whitleylass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there,
Ok I always believed that you should not compare one love against another, but there is an exception to this rule and it is simply this, think out where the relationship with your older partner was going and include everything, check it against where you see the impending relationship going with the partner you are interested in, and again include everything. like do you love both of the men? I would think the olderman would know more about what makes you tick, tock, and thrill, but the younger man has to learn all about you, will he love what he learns? does the older man still love you, because of what he has learned over the time, you have lived with him? and lastlt, do both men know each other? tread carefully love, you are some time away from making up your mind yet, someone is going to hurt, a lot, and you might lose them both, I would say GO with what you know, better than losing because of what you don't know. good luck honey......Tony M
2007-01-22 03:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it current - You have both fantasies going on at the same time - Older guy + hot young chick - Older sultry experienced woman + cradle robbed boy toy!! - Maybe you shouldn't live w/ either one so you can be more flexible and available for each one whenever you might want to be w/ one or the other!!
I had the pleasure of dating a super Hot, super sweet female 15 years my junior for about 1 year back in '86' - We parted friends and I'll take all those beautiful exotic memories to the grave w/ a smile!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Write a book and have it turned into a movie!!
2007-01-25 19:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The younger man, who would want a older man if they could have a younger man? The older man will get more wrinkled and you will not fancy him soon in any case. If you marry an older man you will have about 18 years of widowhood because women also live about 4 years longer on average. Men lose collagen in their skin at a much younger age than women, so men loss their looks at an earlier age.So many illness happen to men at an earlier age than women, like forms of dementia. I would love to have a man 14 years younger, but I would never date an older man because I would want to fancy him.
2007-01-22 01:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by mellouckili 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nature and history repeats itself , you had already enjoyed the best part of your life , now you can fulfils your physical needs ,I can make out , its on your strongest desire / really hungry . Take wise step , withoutt destroying your present life style , just enjoy your time with the 14 yrs younger without any commitment , discuss with him very clearly and openly withou mincing words to save guard your happy future , yet to witness .
2007-01-22 02:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The younger man may dump you for someone younger.
Chances are the older man will keep you.
The answer is in your hart ,Not on yahoo.
Good luck.
2007-01-22 01:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by ღ♥ஐcookie1ஐ♥ღ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
age is just a number. follow your heart, choose the one who makes you most happy and u will love forever. Unless the 14 yrs younger is under 18, lol!
2007-01-22 01:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by Angelina A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My fiancee is 13 years and 8 months older than me, and if you're truely in love, age has nothing to do with it, so I'd choose what I feel inside.
2007-01-22 02:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by Scott Bull 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi carole p
you are in a sad situation, my advice would be two things...
If you don't love the guy you are living with then leave him, you gonna hurt him anyway!
Find a place to live on your own & don't be dependent on anyone!
Do these two things first before you get involved in another relationship.
Be true to yourself & true to your future partner.
2007-01-25 21:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by healer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live with a man you dont love then you must be with him for his money. Therefore your just a cheap whore and dont deserve the love of a good man.
You should know better at your age.
2007-01-22 02:42:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋