My mom died wen i was 3 so now dad married this woman 2 years ago. I think life was much better without her.I really dont like her that much but its making life for my dad a whole lot easier since he duznt hav 2 work as much. I dont want to take that away from him but at the swame time I really dont want her to be my mother.Wat should I do?
2007-01-21 17:22:46 · 6 answers · asked by Sarah A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I WROTE YOU FOR ALITTLE MORE INFO. BUT IN RESPONSE, IF YOU ARE STILL AT HOME, TRY TO GET ALONG WITH HER AS BEST AS YOU CAN UNTIL YOU DO GET OUT ON YOUR OWN.
IF THIS IS THE SAME AS MY SITUATION. I AM 43 YRS OLD AND MY MOM DIED OF LUNG CANCER JAN 26, 2003. MY DAD MARRIED HIS NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOR WHO MY MOM COULD NOT STAND. THEY MARRIED NOV 7TH, 2004. I TRIED TALKING MY DAD OUT OF IT, BUT SEE WE NEVER WERE CLOSE. HE MARRIED BECAUSE HE WAS LONELY AND SHE HAD MONEY. WELL I AM MARRIED AND WE MOVED OVER 400 MILES AWAY. MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAD IS SO MUCH BETTER NOW. THIS IS BECAUSE WE NEVER SEE EACH OTHER, BUT HE CALLS ALOT MORE.
THIS WOMAN WILL NEVER TAKE THE PLACE OF MY MOM. EVEN IF SHE WAS A GOOD WOMAN. BUT WHEN IT COMES ALL DOWN TO IT, WE CANNOT MAKE THOSE CHOICES FOR OUR PARENTS ANYMORE THAN THEY CAN ONCE WE ARE GROWN UP. FIND THAT MIDDLE GROUND THAT YOU CAN STILL BE AROUND HIM AND NOT SO MUCH WITH HER UNLESS YOU ARE STILL LIVING AT HOME.
2007-01-21 17:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by baptism_by_fire_2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont know how old you are now. But when you reach 18, you'll either get a job, go to college, move out...whatever, the thing is that you're not going to remain by the side of your dad for the rest of your life, and probably will. Let him live his life like you will want him to let you live your live when you get older.
Sorry for what happened to your mother. And this lady is not your mother, she's your father's wife, dont torture yourself trying not to let her be "your mother" she probably is not trying either, but since your dad loves you, she has to love you also :)
Good Luck
2007-01-22 02:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are there reasons for u not to like ur step mom, has she treated u badly, if not then u must give her a chance. u need not take her as ur mother if u dont want to, but she can definately be ur friend. it is important that u give her the chance for the sake of ur father. as humans we often make this mistake of stero typing people, dont do that. if she is good to u u can reciprocate and in time u will feel the difference and acceptance will come.
all the best
2007-01-22 02:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't your mother. She is your step-mother. They are not interchangable. It sounds like you care a great deal about your dad. Maybe talk to him about it sometime when you two are alone and see if he'll set some time aside for just the two of you.
2007-01-22 01:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what makes you didn't like her? how about all of your family go together in your holiday. and try if she can be a good mother for you.
or may be 3 of u have a discuss. tell them what do you want from both of them. and ask them to do the same thing. but 3 of you must accept if someone tells about something bad in you. be patient. and after that, 3 of you can go for holiday. the key is brave to tell anything and patient.
just tell me if need someone to share
2007-01-22 01:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by red boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will never take the place of your Mom, talk to your Dad about whats bothering you and he can help you work through this.
2007-01-22 01:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋