Brother talking about suicide, should I ask for help?

Question

He's 15, great boy, excellent student. Lately he's been talking and accessing sites about suicide. I'm 13, he's a great bro to me. We lost our dad in a car wreck 2 years ago. He was in another car, just behind, and saw the accident. Very mature for his age, most
of his friends are over 18. Strong moral principles, very espected by teachers,mom and me. Apparently cold, but actually a sweetheart

Answer 1

You need to tell an adult as soon as possible - if not your parents, then a counselor at school. This is not something you can handle on your own nor is it something you will forgive yourself for if he does and you did not get help. People who commit suicide often convince themselves that they are doing other people a favor or that no one will really care. Remind and show your brother often how important he is to you, how much you care, and that you really need him in your life - appreciation, approval and affection!

Answer 2

Well if you think that your brother is thinking about something like that , then my answer would be yes, you could also talk to him about it, he may just be doing some research on the subject since it seems to be hitting all walks of life, from new born to the very old. Now if he is having trouble with what he saw when your father was killed, yes he needs to see someone to talk about it, and to get it out and process it. No matter how strong or smart a person may be, sometimes they hide what they are feeling , cause they feel they have to be strong for the rest of the family, while inside they really need some help with it, so talk to your brother, and mother about it and see what they think. Cause i really do not want to see you have another loss in your life neither.

Answer 3

You are a brave boy. Your brother is lucky to have you. You need to get him some help even if it's behind his back. There's a couple things you could do. You can go to school and tell your principal about your brother.

You can tell your mother, tell a school counselor, and I am going to give you some phone numbers you can call, it's a suicide hotline number and it's free to call. So if you want to get some more advice these people are the ones to call. They can tell you exactly what to do. Your brother is feeling this way because of the loss of your father. You all need to get in to some grief counseling.

National Suicide Hotlines USA
United States of America


Toll-Free / 24 hours a day / 7 days a week



1-800-SUICIDE* 1-800-273-TALK
1-800-784-2433* 1-800-273-8255


1-800-799-4TTY (4889)
Deaf Hotline

Answer 4

Yes you should tell your Mom right away, she'd want to know. Also, people often talk about suicide as they are planning how to do it, so time is running short. Don't wait until it's too late.

I'd like to suggest you show your mom this answer, as I'd like to suggest that she find a psychologist, not a psychiatrist who treats teens, it's important to find one who specializes in teens. Also, one who specializes in helping teens with grief. WHY? Because what your brother saw was horrible for him. Seeing the death of anyone in a wreck would be hard, even more so when you are younger and it's your own father. People in such situations have about a 50% chance of choosing suicide within five years of the incident. If he gets to a therapist who understands Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and how teens deal differently with many adult issues, one who specializes in grief, he's more likely to get help, without someone just drugging him as an answer to a problem that needs active therapy. Someone trained to help him fully grieve and talk through all he saw and how it has affected him and your entire family since your dad's death.

You and your Mom need to talk about this as well, so it doesn't end up with the two of you not being able to cope as well. Talking about it, crying as much as needed, etc., is healing.

I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST, go tell your mother right this minute.

Answer 5

Yes most definitely get help, to turn his mind away from such thoughts. At the same time it is necessary to be careful so as not to turn him off every time someone asks him to get help or to talk to someone who can help.

A psychologist similar to a coach, a sports performance psychologist or even a social psychologist may be able to help; and if they can't they would be able to point him in the right direction.

It is important to note that we become what we think about; and if you think that you will be a very successful business person and millionaire, you will wake up one day and find that you are indeed a successful business person and millionaire. The power of the mind is something that can't be underestimated.

A smart and mature guy like your brother shouldn't have any problem interacting with and working with a professional guy who can help and turn his thoughts towards higher and better things.

Answer 6

TELL YOUR PARENTS ASAP!!!

SOMEONE TO TALK ABOUT IT TO

Talk Zone 1-800-475-TALK Peer Counselors

Teen Help Line 1-800-400-0900 Help Line For Troubled Teens

Teen Hot Line 1-800-747-8336 Hot Line For Troubled Teens

VOICES In Action, Inc. 1-773-327-1500

Youth Development International 1-800-HIT-HOME (448-4663) Youth Crisis Hotline

National Crisis Line 1-800-334-4357 Crisis Help Line

National Youth Crisis Hotline [phone] Youth Crisis Hotline

Answer 7

tell your mom and ask her to get help ASAP! there are several sites in the internet that actually encourages suicide, those sites makes suicide look very glorious and it could encourage your brother in all the wrong way... i think your brother is feeling lost and lonely... he probanly can't get over your dad's death and encountering such thing can be highly traumatic... you got to help him to get over that pain and it can only be done as a family... don't delay to tell your mother.. it can help your brother a lot of pain and sufferings...
your bro is a lucky guy to have a sister like you. help him to get over the trauma.. some times no matter how mature you are you need help to get by and your brother is going through such phase. just show him what a special boy he is and he would find the world way too beautiful to leave it behind...
take care of him and good luck...

Answer 8

I really can't add any thing to what has already been wrote here, but my own experience in wanting to committ suicide. The feelings you feel when you are in this state of mind. You think you are more of a problem to everyone else, and you want to put THEM out of THEIR misery of KNOWING YOU! And having to DEAL WITH YOU! You don't feel like you deserve their love, and how could anyone ever love you, so you'll just take care of the problem yourself, and they won't have to worry about you any more! When you are feeling this way, you really don't WANT TO burden ANYONE with your PROBLEMS! YOU have NO HOPE, and there is no light "at the end of the tunnel."
Yes tell, tell, tell, tell, tell, UNTIL SOMEONE LISTENS TO YOU!
Especially an adult! Hon, that is the most lonliest feeling of wanting to committ suicide! So tell someone that can take some kind of action to help not only him, but you also, and your mother to deal with his problems.

Answer 9

YES! Absolutely! You need to get him some help as soon as possible. Talk to your mom, his teachers, his friends, anyone you can trust that he would listen to. It's not enough to ask him if he's thinking about suicide. Ask him if he is planning to kill himself. A counselor recently told me that if he is "planning" to commit suicide, he will tell you. Then you need to intervene in whatever way you can to keep that from happening, even if it makes your brother angry at you. He'll get over the anger some day, and you'll still have your big brother around to pick on. Call a suicide hotline if you need to; they'll be glad to give you any information you need, people to call, and help you in any way they can. But please, do this as soon as possible. Don't wait!

Answer 10

He just sounds curious. I know I am ;D

Unless he starts talking seriously about it or starts to give stuff away and gather ropes, pills, blades, etc. don't say much. You might come off as an annoying little sister.

Go do something you both love together and you'll feel better about it. Tell him that you love him and hug him- a lot. You'll be a bit annoying, but it might come to him later if he ever tries it that there is someone that really loves him.