Am I the only one?

Question

who believes that the cook shouldn't clean? My mom always taught me that the cook should never have to clean, but it seems like no one else was brought up that way... or at least my husband wasn't...

Obviously, if he doesn't clean it up, I do. And I clean as I go. He watches TV after I get done cooking and doesn't even offer to help clean. THAT'S why I'm asking the question.

Answer 1

I agree. After my mom made dinner, I had to do the dishes. The cook worked hard enough making dinner, they shouldn't have to do the dishes too.

Answer 2

There are no obligations/rules that the cook does not clean afterwards. It is however considerate and thoughtful if the person that does not cook does the dishes afterwards. I was brought up in a house where mom did the cooking, the kids took there turns doing the dishes. After we were grown and gone, dad would get home from work first and would cook dinner and then mom and dad would do the dishes together. Mom would fix breakfast and dad always did the dishes then.

Answer 3

A good cook cleans as she works. It is easier, and working in a kitchen cluttered with dirty dishes is a terrible pain.

Whatever is left to be cleaned after that, can be cleaned by the partner or the other person... It should mean a couple of pots/pans, an oven dish, couple of spatulas, sink and stove. If there is more, the cook is not doing a good job!!!

I've seen "cooks" preparing a meal and leaving behind a trail of 200 dirty dishes, including all the bowls and spoons, a sink full of junk, a dishwasher fill with clean dishes (not emptied before starting...), all kitchen surface littered with stuff to store, put away, garbage... that wouldn't be fair to leave to the other person.

Answer 4

It depends on how you decide to split the chores in your household really. At the moment, in my house, I do most of the cleaning and all of the cooking.....but that's because I don't have a job at the moment, and my fiance does.....but when we are both working, we split the chores down the middle. There are certain things I don't like to do, and he doesn't mind...and certain things he doesn't like to do and I don't mind. For instance, I hate sweeping and mopping the floors, and taking out the trash, so he does those things.....while I don't mind doing the laundry, dusting, and cooking.....and when I cook, he does the dishes. It's really all about finding a good middle ground. Cooking isn't all that hard, but keeping the house clean (especially a larger house) can be, so I would say that whoever does the cooking should help out with other chores too (unless of course you have teenagers around the house who can help out with some of the household chores).

Answer 5

When I was raised the person who provided the food was not required to clean. Later, in my house when the food was provided equally, we followed the cook doesn't clean rule-except the cook was expected to clean up as they went to some extent.
I doubt you're going to change your husband, though you could try not cooking (tell him "that way there's no mess to clean") if you can go without or serve everything on paper plates with disposable utensils and cook with disposable pans-maybe he'll get the idea!

Answer 6

That was always the rule in my parents' house when I was growing up: the cook is exempt from doing the dishes. Everyone who ate the meal (except the cook, of course) helps clear the table and clean up the kitchen.

Answer 7

the way you're saying it, it sounds like after the meal is ready, you'd just leave all the cooking utensils in the sink and let the people who didn't cook wsh it. it's not that what you're saying is wrong, it's just not exactly right. my mom taught me that whoever used the plate must clean it. what i mean is, you should wash whatever you used, and let other people wash the dishes that they used. if, let's say, you suck at cleaning, as the other person that answered had claimed, then when will you learn, right?

Answer 8

I wasn't brought up the way you were. In my home who ever does the cooking does the cleaning up, the other people can help if they want to.

Answer 9

The cook is also the cleaner in this house too. But at least the cleaning is done properly.

Answer 10

I would like to say I agree with but being that I work third shift and my fiance being the fantastic woman she is, she tends to cook and then clean seeing as I am normally passed out around dinner time having been up all day with our son. But yes that was how i was raised as well.

Answer 11

Well, it makes sense. The person who cooked already worked, so the other people can clean up.

UNLESS, of course, the cook made a huge, elaborate meal for absolutely no reason using lots, and lots of dishes and pots and pans. Then, I think they should lend a hand.