My boyfriend broke up with me. He still loves me, but wants to be able to treat me better in the relationship.

Question

We have been dating for almost three years and he has recently been treating me less romantically. He believes that this is because he is not getting his "friend" energy where he needs it. He says that he needs time to make friends (I am really his only friend) before he can be good to me. I understand his dilemma, but I'm really having trouble understanding why he needs to separate from me in order to make friends. He believes that having a "girlfriend" makes it seem like he is unavailable to other people as a friend. What should I do? I'm not sure he truly understands what it would be like to not have me as a resource or support. I told him that I would like to take a week apart and then discuss either ending our relationship or reconfiguring it in order to make him more available to other people so that he can make more friends. What kind of compromise could this be? Is there a solution where we could be together but he could have the freedom he needs?

We are both students in college so also very busy with schoolwork. He recently joined a fraternity in order to meet more people, but still finds himself feeling shy and isolated.

Answer 1

why cant you double date? are you the only couple on campus?

something is strange here. where would he get the idea that you wouldn't be open to couple friends? are you two interested in staying together for the rest of your life or are you just with each other so you can kiss and stuff?

have you been holding on to single friends and he is envious? are some of your friends male or do your girlfriends feel that he is not good enough for you?

you didn't say how far along you are in college, if you are in your freshmen year this could explain part of it, because there will be people who tell you it is better to be single to consider your options. when the truth is if you find someone who completes you that is far superior to single life. and if you can, as a couple find other like minded couples, well life just doesn't get any better than than.

if on the other hand you are in the later years of college he may be regretting not sewing his wild oats. if he sews them too wide you may not want anything to do with him after that. unless you feel the same and are sewing your oats at the same time.

he may be honestly confused or he may be up to something. i have given you a few views of what may be happening but you should talk to him and talk to him and talk to him to find out what is really going on. just talk to him as friends cause if you hound him you may or may not be driving off a good man.

p.s. very few men are as romantic as guys in novels. many of those novels are written by women who are scripting their dream lovers.

Answer 2

Something isn't right here he wants to break up with you to meet friends I don't think so sister. Call me crazy but it seems like he wants to meet other girls or see other people. I wouldn't trust it either and I think that you are doing the right thing by giving hi an ultimatum and a time limit I would do the same and I think that is excuse is stupid. On the other thing you can't cage a man so if you are doing this then he would get tired of it and want to break loose you should give him free time and hang out with your friends as well. You see they say that absence makes the heart go fund-er and the person who said this is a very wise person because it is true up to this day. You guys should talk it out and please if he is wanting to see other people then you have to tell him to get lost!

Answer 3

He needs space.A boy need to behave like a boy also,not only like a lover.Let him go free, he needs to make friends.Then only a relation survives.