ur n love with someone there everythng u ever dreamed of but theres 1 thing missing he wont abuse you i say abuse bc thats all im so use to i no this isnt healthy but how can i get this out of head and my heart before i lose the best things that ever happend to me
how u let what happened to u in ur past be left in the past before he destroys ur future
2007-01-21 17:03:57 · 10 answers · asked by nlovewithsomeonewhosnotmine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's somewhat normal. You should get some professional help.
2007-01-21 17:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait--you are used to abuse??? How old are you and why is abuse a part of your life. I would like to know who abuses you and what are they doing??? But any abuse is wrong, and so is accepting it. It is NOT normal or acceptable. Certainly you must be able to tell the difference between right and wrong---well abuse is wrong. Remember that we only ALLOW the things that happen to us...you don't have to allow abuse or mistreatment. Love is not supposed to hurt in any way, shape, or form. Is there a problem with your thinking??? Do you think only an abusive person would care to know you? Is your esteem so low that you have to allow abuse??? I'm sorry for being a little rough here, but you better get a grip and straighten out--before something serious really happens to you.Mental and physical mistreatment is illegal in most parts of the world. It is not tolerated in America...and there is no excuse to accept it. Abusers have a problem--they don't know how to have a normal relationship--they need control and inflict pain because they have lost control of their emotions. They actually look for people to push around...they act real nice until they start a slow pattern--always saying that they are sorry---it won't happen again. And you believe it--and it just slowly gets worse. Usually women who want to play mommy and think they can change this person, wind up abused. You need no one----especially an abuser. Find a way to make yourself understand that you are a beautiful , strong person and should only be with the nicest people. Good luck with all this.
2007-01-21 17:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to a specialist in behavioral medicine before you find yourself alone @ 60 wondering "What's wrong with me?"
You have a health condition my dear, one that needs fixing and soon. Try going to a psychologist, seriously, you'll feel much better when you realize that you CAN love and BE loved unconditionally.
God Bless you~
2007-01-21 17:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your response is normal based on what you are alluding to have been through in the past. Don't give up on yourself or the one you love. Maybe seeking some professional help would be good as well.
Good luck, and please try not to write your questions like they are lyrics to a Prince song ;)
2007-01-21 17:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Zezo Zeze Zadfrack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll get it out of your head when you find one that will put you six feel under you ding bat.
Hear we are trying to stop sh** like that ,and then you come along .
Are you that dumb to think that is normal.?
And i bet your the kind that calls the cops and wast the courts time and the taxpers monnie taking him to court.
find some other way to get you kicks.
I hope you never find a man.
2007-01-21 17:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by ღ♥ஐcookie1ஐ♥ღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's normal. You probably feel that because he doesn't abuse you, he doesn't care about you. That's not true. You need to seek professional help or else you will never be right mentally.
2007-01-21 17:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is normal, you got yourself in a "lifestyle" rut and you are trying to get out of it. I've have been the guy in a relationship you describe, communicate you feelings and fears to him. Let him know that you are affraid and what you went through, love will take care of the rest...
2007-01-21 17:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called self-defeating behaviour!!! You must go speak with a thearpist, not for any meds or anything, just real good advice so that you will not self-destruct your relationship if that is what you really want
2007-01-21 17:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to be abused???
can't you just accept that this person wants to be with you and treat you right??? be happy and let the thoughts of abuse fade away under this persons love...
2007-01-21 17:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh SNAP! you got some issues. Get some shrink help! serious. Secondly... what kind of abuse are you looking for, physical, verbal, emotional, sexual... if its physical... try having him spank your *** in the sack! If its Verbal, have him call you crazy names in the sack!, if its emotional... well, don't know on that one... if its sexual, have him do freaky stuff to you.
just my opinion, but serious, get help for you abuse issue!
2007-01-21 17:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by sgtgregg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋