i used to date this girl and we talked almost everyday for a month. even though we got along great and never argued, her life was really chaotic from the beginning (family/work/friend drama) so recently we decided to just be friends. i didn't mind at first bc i wasn't planning on anything long term and was relieved of dealing with the drama. about a week later i started to really miss the times we had though and told her i cared but she asked me to 'give her space.' what does this mean and how long should i give her? and why am i feeling this way only after we stopped dating? i'm conflicted - my brain is telling me she's not right for me but at the same time i really miss her. it's very strange and i don't understand it so i welcome your answers thanks!
2007-01-21 16:59:04 · 11 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know its hard to do, but wait for her to come to you. if the wait become to long to bare, then email her or something. tell her "hi" and whats going on with your life. dont go into too much detail on you missing her.
2007-01-21 17:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by Em 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What it means when she says she wants space is basically that she isn't attracted to you anymore. She lost whatever it was that you had when she met you that made her hot inside. You're probably feeling like this because 1. you want something and you can't have it so it makes it more valuable 2. you have no other options. When you put that much value in one thing you realize that it's your only option and having one option puts heavy value on that one option. Maybe you should go out and make it a goal to meet a few girls. It'll get her off your mind.
Here's the plan: Date other girls and don't contact that one girl for a while. Then call her up and talk and ask how she was and tell her what you've been up to dating other girls and just having a great time. It'll come off really attractive and desirable, unlike calling and saying "I love you and I want you pleeeasse". Remember, if you chase then she will run.
2007-01-22 01:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Rake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't give her too much space! I hate it when my requests for space end up with me being ignored altogether.
Definitely message her and tell her that you miss her, but don't come on too strongly. The friendship sounds important to you and it could be that she's going through a rough patch that she finds she can't talk about or feels like no-one can help her through. Make sure that you also tell her that you're there if she needs a friend and someone to talk to. Meeting for coffee would be good too, because you could get back to seeing each other, but on a friendly basis. The relationship still needs attention and time to thrive, even if it's only a friendship.
As for time, I'd say to check in after about 3 or 4 days. Tell her that you're thinking of her and want to be there to support her if she's having a tough time.
If you can, hold out for a week.
Most of all, try to keep it platonic. Unfortunately, a lot of girls misinterpret platonic affection from men as them wanting more because a lot of us girls aren't used to a man being emotionally in touch with us (and a lot of the time this is because we can be confusing!).
Hang in there, lastly! A good friend is such a precious gift and I think this girl is so lucky to have someone that cares for her like you do.
2007-01-22 01:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by deplorable_world 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When anyone asks you to give them space, they are
actually telling you 'I don't want to be around you'!
I would move on if I were you!
The reason you are missing the times you had with her, is because they arn't part of your life anymore, and the sudden change is almost like 'withdrawal' symtoms.
Let her go and move on.
It won't be long before you spot another girl who interests you!
You may not feel that way right now, but you will!!
And your brain is trying to 'save' you from future sorrows with her!!
2007-01-22 01:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to go back into the sigle life from a relationship. Give it time and let her decide whats right for her. In the meantime, go out and have a good time... don't live in the past. Life is too short.
2007-01-22 01:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by bendabomb85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you'll feel the importance of a person when she's gone,so here's what i can say: give her time to think...not very long,but not also very short time.you can text her,not to say hi but to say what you feel.never promise anything.sometimes missing a person is bec.you love her OR you are only infatuated.so...never tell her:"i really love you so much...and i cant give you up."dont!!!better to say:"i miss you but i dont know why.bec your feelings for her may expire,when that happens,atleast you didnt say you love her and she wont expect too much...
goodluck,think about my advice...
2007-01-22 01:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by LILYCAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in a couple of days, or a week, you can text her that you just wanted to say hi, and that you were thinking of her, but leave it at that. Don't even say she can call you or anything like that, because then she'll feel pressure. Leave it at that and I'll bet that she will call you. Trust me
2007-01-22 01:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by Krissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the person is not around,you start missing her. Listen to your heart,maybe you love her.
2007-01-22 01:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id leave her alone..... If she is interested she will call you. If you feel she isn't right 4 you.... Go with your feelings.
2007-01-22 01:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by Aussie_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she might be dating another guy, but if not, aks her out again and see what happens because obviously you want her back.
2007-01-22 01:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by jenny_saranghae_joyoppa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋