They don't approve of alcohol, but I love to drink, as does my bride and most all of our friends... My parents have volunteered to cover about $2000 of the $20,000 wedding expenses. I'm planning to have open bar and a live band and want it to be a big party.
Is it right for them to want to restrict alcohol consumption?
2007-01-21 16:45:25 · 13 answers · asked by Jason 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They are always saying they're broke, so $2000 is a pretty big contribution from them, but still I'm paying for most of it and going to probably owe 10k on my credit card when it's all done.
2007-01-21 16:48:12 · update #1
I would say it's your wedding and you should have it your way, especially if you are paying for the wedding. 2000.00 is not a lot to give when the wedding is costing way more than that.
Just have them pay for the rehearsal dinner without alcohol beverages and part of the honeymoon, nothing toward the wedding so they can't say anything. Or tell them to keep their money. But you should have a wedding you want and not what others want.
2007-01-21 20:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation but with my fiance's parents. Since we are paying for the large portion of the wedding as in your situation, we have decided to have alcohol. To keep it from being a big drinking fest and to save us some money, we are not having an open bar..And it was kind of way we could help restrict some of our alcoholic family members with a low cash supply.
2007-01-21 16:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by jessann421 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day you're an adult & your opinions on things can differ from your parents. It's up to them to realize this. Don't get plastered or anything, that's no way to enjoy your wedding. But drink if you wish.
2007-01-22 06:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you pay for the bar they should not control whether or not you have one. My parents do not drink but most of my fiances family and friends drink and even some of MY family drinks. So I am having a bar or else the majority of the people would be very butt-hurt and gossip behind our backs ! And of course I WANT them to have fun I'm not just getting it for them to not gossip! =P
2007-01-21 18:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is YOUR wedding and it is about YOUR life. I think that what you should care about is organizing that day and nothing more. You are an adult and you are planning for your life wihtout your parents interfering to it. Make it a big party for you as well and not only for the guests...
2007-01-21 21:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by Margarita F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it right for them to want to restrict alcohol consumption? No
That said it is better not to drink. Let your wife get plastered.
You will need to be on your toes later, and drink will not help.
Plus side is your parents thinks it is because of them, but it is really for you. Have fun.
2007-01-21 16:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by Carl P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding, your choice. If they were covering the entire wedding, that would be a different story. They do not have to drink if they do not want to.
2007-01-21 17:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by Shanan D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be nice and respect your parents as much as you can, however, be true to yourself- you drink, so does your bride and guests, and most people couldnt imagine an alcohol free celebration.
Remember, you are an adult and embarking on a life as your own family- respect your parents within reason, but run your own life.
2007-01-21 17:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not right its your wedding not theirs but what i would do is limit what u drink at the wedding and that way you will still be enjoying your self with out going over board they shouldn't complain then
2007-01-21 17:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end, the decision is yours of course, but before you decide, consider their reasons. Are their familiy members with alcohol issues, etc?
2007-01-22 01:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋