why is teenage romance so complicated?

Answer 1

It's not only teenage romance that is complicated. Romance itself is complicated. When one has to deal with relationships and emotions, there is a tangled web that is woven. The challenge is to remain calm and to navigate this tangled web as carefully as possible.

Being a teenager makes it all the more complicated because of the lack of experience, lack of patience, the changing hormonal levels, the restrictions imposed, insecurities, and lack of self confidence as well as inadequate self knowledge.

Answer 2

Teenage romance is so complicated because we're practicing for the bigger game later on in life. Date now so theres no mistakes later. You'll get to know what girls do and do not like. What aggrivates them, what brings pleasure to them. What annoys them, what joys them. What they look for in a guy. How much is too much, how little is too little. Though you might find these things out the hard way, better now than later. Because when the problem later, they call me ;)

- The Date Doctor Robert

Answer 3

Well I think it is partly because of the way parents look at things, with some parents they look at their children when they are just in the first grade and they start pointing out other children and think it is cute when the children try to hug, they push their children to have a boyfrend or girlfriend so they will not be left out. In this time there is not reason for the children to be pushed into this status.
I think the biggest part is that teenagers are so pushed by the popular crowd and do not stand for what they want, Teenagers are so worried about fitting in that they will go with any one so they will not be the one that everyone makes fun of, teenagers in general are so affraid of being that one that everyone makes fun of that they let others push them in directions they really do not want to go.
I know that when my daughter started to "go" with boys in school they did not go any where but they were "together", unfortunatly many teenagers are very serious about their relationship at first, but then the crowd decides that they should not see each other or one or more of their friends decide they just do not "fit in".
So I gues the biggest factor in teenage relationships that makes it so complicated is "fear".

Fear of what others think.
Fear of what they do not know.
Fear that they might say the wrong thing.
Fear that their friends will not like their choice of boyfriend.
Fear of what if there is someone better.
Fear of choosing the wrong guy.
Fear of not knowing how far to go in a relationship.
Fear of making to many mistakes.
Fear of the "first" everything.
FEAR OF BEING ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!
FEAR TO SAY WHAT THEY REALLY THINK!!!
FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN!!
FEAR TO BE WHO THEY REALY ARE!

If you add to that the fact that they are to young to realy know what it is they realy want, and they are starting to explore there bodies, emotions, harmones, and dealing with the first of everything, and the fact that some teenagers are like some adults, they just want to have fun and never look to the future, then there are the ones who always look to the future. Then you can add to that the things they see on tv and in the movies and what you have is one big mess so complicated they are afraid to even try because they know they are going to make a mistake. But they are more affraid not to try. Some one might make fun of them. Boy no wonder teenagers are so mixed up!
The biggerst influence in teenagers is their parrents, the problem most parents are to busy to even pay attention to what their children are doing or even where they are, and their parrents are not going to take time out of their lives to make sure from the time their children are very little that they talk to them about everything under the sun and when they get to be teenagers they would turn to their parrents for guidence, but most parents are just not around so why ask, the parents do not even know where they are more less what they are going through in life or the struggles they have so the children look to each other for support. It is a real crying shame!!!!!!!!!!
The second biggest problem is they have no one who know's to talk to, no one to give real advice.
The third reason is that most adults can not even keep relationship's so why ask them!!!

Answer 4

Do not think so, feel it's the simplistic of all. To a teenager ,it may seem so ,but to the grown up people ,it's still simple.
May be there are more emotions involved in teenage romance vis-a-vis romance between grown up people ,that is why it tends to become little jinxed

Answer 5

I honestly think it's because we aren't mature enough to do things right when we're teenagers.

But you know what - you've got the rest of your life to get it right. Something complicated that happens when you're a teenager will become a part of your life experience - and you'd rather have it than not have it.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, teen romancing is fueled more by lust rather than genuine love. There's also the fact that teens tend to not be looking for serious relationships and are new to the whole concept in general. Don't lose hope, give it a few years and things will become much less akward.

Answer 7

Because we all have this idea of how grand love is. We don't look outside the square, and are unaware of all the little extra's that come when in a relationship. Plus, our hormones are whizzing all over the place. Be smart, wait until you are older. Get to know the person before you jump in heart first.

Answer 8

It's two immature, no offence, people in a very mature relationship.

The same reason why a 12 year old would not be good as a CEO.
The same reason why you can't be president until your 35 or so.

Answer 9

cause young people are changing, maturing, and have a rough time thinking before acting which means alot of weird stuff will be going on with them. the teenage brain is messed up for the most part..

Answer 10

Hormones, feelings change so rapidly. Also, remember when you're in high school, there is a huge pool of people with whom you interact with on a regular basis. This makes it difficult to maintain a steady relationship.