my narcissistic mum told me that if i see her often and be a good daughter, she 'might' give me some inheritance, although she said she may change her mind. Howver my sister the 'golden child'' has already received her share of inheritance. i am in late 20's, living away from her, all my life i am abused by this cruel women emotioanlly and physcally, what should i do? my dad has died 3 years ago due to long term stress of living with her
2007-01-21 16:25:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Danger. if your mum is truly a narcissist, beware. My mother is, and after many years of blaming myself and anguish, i have come to be aware of how to act with her. You see, a narcissist has no image of self. Their image is defined by the people around them, mostly family. How good or bad they view themselves depends on how they manage and control these people in their life.
This is a very sick personality disorder. These people are arrogant, manipulative, have a sense of entitlement, demand obedience and loyalty. it is horrible to be in relationships with them unless you a re a codependent.
My analysis, is this inheritance is a disguised cry for attention. She may have no plans at all of giving it to you just of seeing what she can make you do. Be very carefull. Trust your intuition.
My advice is to treat her with as much love and respect as you are capable of, BUT guard your emotions from her! She feeds on them it is how she exercises power. So do not give in, recognize in your conversations how she provokes the fight, yet leaves you in the wrong, watch the games.
Be strong. It is not right for narcissists to do what they do, yet know that it is compulsive, that they do not understand it nor are even aware of it. You did not deserve to grow up under such a person, but you must play the hand you are dealt.
Do not immediately accept this offering. Do not rush to it, communicate that you are very busy through a third party, but are trying to make time to come see her. Wait for more information and weigh your choices carefully.
2007-01-21 16:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a real witch -- trying to use her inheritance over you.
I think you should try to be civil to her whenever you see her. You might be able to train her to be civil by "rewarding" her with extra quality time when she's good and visiting less frequently and for shorter periods when she's not so nice.
Avoid any screaming matches or arguments because then she's getting what she wants -- attention. If she makes you angry then just make some excuse and leave as soon as possible "Oh look at the time -- gotta run."
Good luck!
2007-01-21 16:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can live with out this womans money do so as she is not telling you she will give some to you she is only toying and saying I might if you are a good daughter, and her idea of a good daughter is not what you have been so far, so to get the money you have to be come her slave and dovoted at that, and she still can and will leave you a dollar
2007-01-21 17:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should never have a relationship with someone because incase they die you might get something from them.
If you do not get a long with your mother and do not want to be around then you shouldnt'. Not even if she wants to leave you something when she passes.
2007-01-21 16:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in denial sweetie. I didn't think I had an ego worth rubbing but I like a tickle behind the ears :) (((Erin)))
2016-03-29 08:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm good question here. I been faced with the same dilemna and have to say I cannot answer this question honestly. I would talk to my mom and treat her with respect, even if she were a
2007-01-21 16:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's kind of narcissicistic of you to talk to her just for inheritance, don't you think?
If you want to salvage the relationship, or you are really desperate for the money, okay.
But if it's not worth it, leave it alone. She's probably manipulating you anyway.
2007-01-21 16:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by mara 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her it would be a worthless relationship if that was the sole reason for it. a relationship should be wanted for itself, not for what comes from it.
2007-01-21 16:35:46 · answer #8 · answered by mornington observer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be true to yourself and dont be false to her just for money...
2007-01-21 16:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by brown eyes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋