Pressure to get married? I'm still single!?

Question

I feel like every time I turn around my friends are going on and on and on about how they want to meet mr. right and settle down and have families. My mother is telling me she wants to be young enough to hold her grandkids. When I receive a wedding invitation, another one bites the durst plays in my head. I hate to sound whiny, but I am so tired of being single and so tired of the pressure to get married.

I know they say you have to be happy with you and no man can complete you and all that, but why is it every time I turn around, I'm bombarded with wedding magazines and couples and valentine's day? I thought I had met mr. right. But he turned out to be mr. coward and mr. liar and mr. cheater.

I'm only 24 and I have a great career, I'm intelligent, and cute in the-girl-next-door-way. I feel like I should have everything to look forward to. Instead, I feel like I'm being smoothered by singleness and the pressure of marriage. Anyone else know how I feel?

Answer 1

Don't feel pressured. Let your heart tell you what's right from wrong. You'll know when it's your time. Just be calm about everything and let nature take it's course.

MJ

Answer 2

At 31, Ive been there and back. Ive also had a lot of pressure from ma friends, family and even colleagues at work. It has been no break for me. The tough one is I cannot blame them for all of it. they believe they are simply pushing me to do the right thing. I know they are doing it in good faith. But its tough because their wishes dont produce your prince, you still have to kiss a few frogs first.
I avoided situations which could give a lot of pressure like attending weddings. At least that one I had control over. So try to minimise the pressure and concentrate on your career path and other issues. he will come at his own time. When it comes to issues of love, its tough to follow a timetable.

My dream was to be married at 25. Im finally getting married this December and I wasnt very enthusiastic about it anymore. Just when I relaxed and stopped looking, love found me.

All the best ma dear and deal with the pressure as the intelligent person u are.

I wish u the best whatever comes your way, marriage or no marriage is not going to make u less of the Lady u are. Keep that in mind.

Answer 3

I understand exactly how you feel and I am 9 years older than you so you could imagine how I feel! But this is my opinion on this subject...You are in your prime. You are only 24 years old so enjoy being young because when you get older, you will long for younger days. This is the age at which you should be working on bettering yourself financially, emotionally, mentally and physically so that when you meet Mr. Right, you will be his Mrs. Right.

Being married is a state of mind and when its your time, you will meet that man who is supposed to be your husband so until then have fun and date. When you meet the right guy, you will know he is for you because you will not have any doubts in your mind and you will feel it all over your body.

Marriage is not a piece of paper and a wedding, those are the material aspects of a marriage which mean nothing. The piece of paper and wedding is all for SHOW. It has nothing to do with the love in the heart, and the commitment in the mind so when you get to the stage in your life when the commitment and love more important than anything else, you will be ready for a true marriage.

Don't worry about about all the wedding invitations, wedding magazines, valentines day and whatnot because if you really pay attention and look deeper into all of that stuff, its really just for SHOW as I just mentioned. So when your mom, friends or whoever try to pressure you into marriage, don't get offended. Just let them know you are preparing yourself for your prince. Unfortuantley you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you get to your prince, but HE will find YOU when you least expect it. Right now, its not your season to have a mate but it will be if you just continue to work on you. Good luck!

Answer 4

Spinsters went out an prolonged time in the past, many ladies do no longer marry till they are 30. in case you recognize you're no longer waiting then you certainly extremely shouldn't get married, that's how some people finally end up settling. which will finally end up with you marrying Mr. outstanding now somewhat than waiting for Mr. outstanding. As to your co-worker, only tell her that discussing your guy or woman existence isn't on your activity description, neither is it in hers, so it is not what you're being paid for. That'll close her up.

Answer 5

You should only marry when you feel it is right for you. Do bear in mind, though, that some women remain unmarried their whole lives because they never found the perfect man or the right time to get married. Perhaps your friends see this happening to you. Think about it. If one person says it, you can ignore it. If 2 persons say it, ask a third. If everyone is saying it, give the matter very deep thought. They might just know or see something about you that you do not and cannot see.

Answer 6

At 27, I agree. A lot of my friends are married or engaged. I do want to get married and have children, but not tomorrow. My mom and dad both pressure me about grandkids, but I just remind them that I haven't met "her" yet. They got divorced when I was 2, and I don't want to make that mistake. At the same rate, I'm tired of being single. I'm cute (at least that's what my female friends tell me), have a good job, and have my own place, it's just that women that fully appreciate a good, honest, decent man are hard to find.

Just take your time and enjoy everything life has to offer.

Answer 7

You are still very young and have plenty of time to find a life partner. Don't be overwhelmed by every person who is getting married before you. Who knows, by the time you find the right one for you, they might be going through their third messy divorce already. In my opinion, you are wise not to rush into things.
As for your mother, tell her you will give her grandkids when you are ready, and any nagging on her part is likely to make you more un-ready than ever.

Answer 8

Ignore them. Whatever you do, do not try to justify yourself. You will end up engaged in a win-less debate. When asked, "Why have not you married," I respond, "When the time is right." And when summarily asked, "Well, when will that be." I respond, "I don't know, but when that time arrives I'll let you know."

I'm 37 and have yet to marry. But, my patience has paid off for I have found someone special whom I otherwise would never have met if I had married for the sake of being married.

Answer 9

a lot of it has to do with your age, not saying no means whatsoever that you are old or anything, but it's just around the right age when many people are out of college starting out on their career and so i think marriage naturally falls into place next. its conventional society's natural process of things. i know this next part can be harder done than said but laugh off the marital bliss that gets thrown your way and just enjoy life while you can. you're young, go out party have fun but be responsible. date around but don't be in any hurry to tie the knot it could more trouble than finding the right outfit for a saturday night out on the town. hope some of that helped.

Answer 10

You are still so very young. You have plenty of single life left ahead of you, and if you are intelligent, you will know that Mr. Definately Right is still out there. Good luck.

Answer 11

where is it written that everyone on the planet should get married? it's your life and your loved ones should only care that you are happy. as a mom, i would never want to pressure my kids into finding a spouse or having grandbabies for me.
wish i had a snappy comeback to tell your friends when they start talking that way.
you're young with a "great career..intelligent..and cute"? you DO have everything to look foward to!