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And when you are with this new girl and you decide you like her, please ask her for her phone number. If she likes you, she'll give it to you. If she hesitates, stutters, or seems uncomfortable in anyway, you're out! If she does give it to you, call her 5 to 9 days later for 3-5 minutes and ask her out for a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, or Sunday afternoon the next week.

Why wait 5-9 days, and ask her out for a weekday date? Because you want to be a Challenge (which is so important in maintaining romantic relationships). The whole fact that you already asked her out means you are interested in her already. But please please please don't get mushy and say how much you like her and everything. That is so anti-Challenge. Women are so used to being chased around they want a guy who can say no to them, who won't cater to their every whim, and they want to be able to wonder if you really like them or not. They want you to be mysterious so they can think about you and want to see you more and get to know you.

So, if the new girl accepts, then you are good as long as she doesn't break the date (which in that case, don't listen to her excuses unless its extreme like someone died or she's really sick). If she says she can't make it, then you're out. But if she says she can't make it, but gives you a date and time that she will be available and it's not on the weekend (if it is, give her another counter offer) then you know she likes you. The bottom line is... when girls like you... they help you!

During the date, don't get mushy; lay back and don't give her an iota of information about yourself if you can avoid it. Deflect her questions and make her wonder about the mysterious guy she's with. Always keep it light and funny; no heavy subjects like sex, politics, religion, never tell her if you want to have her baby or you love her so much or she is such a good person blah blah that junk; always be Cary Grant, Conan O'Brian, Robin Williams, Vince Vaughn, and Owen Wilson. This is being a Challenge, being funny makes her think you are Confident, and you not touching her and being mushy on her is Self-Control. I call this the 3 Cs which win women: Control (Self-), Confidence, and Challenge.

2007-01-21 16:16:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

do you girls really like a challenge and play games like that?

2007-01-21 16:18:03 · update #1

13 answers

They need to grow up too.

2007-01-21 16:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 1 0

Actually, keeping everything light at first serves a better purpose than being "challenging." It's called "not coming on too strong." If I just met a guy, I'd be uncomfortable committing to go out for the whole dinner and movie bit right away. Honestly, that's how it is. Meeting for coffee or lunch sometime puts a lot less pressure on me. Besides the fact that it's safer. And it won't ruin my whole day if I end up not liking the guy at all, whereas my whole evening would be gone if I agreed to go on a long date with someone I just met.

2007-01-21 16:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by mara 3 · 0 0

That's just dumb. If I give you my number call me the next day or day after. Ask me out for the next friday or saturday night. If you want to see me on a tuesday or sunday I'm gong to think you have another gf or you just want to use me for sex. Take me some place nice. It doesn't have to be super fancy or expensive, but not fast food. PAY for the entire meal and leave a GOOD TIP. Be courteous, funny, nice. Pay attention to me and ask me questions about myself (if you are interested in me this should come naturally). Do not talk about your exes or anything too vulgar. If the date is going well you may touch me on the arm or back or pat my hand during conversation. At the end of the date say you had a nice time and say "we should do this again." If we talked about a certain movie or concert you can even say "How would you like to go see that movie next week? Great, I'll call you." That way you are already set up for the second date.

Girls like to date boys that we know are interested in us. Bottom line. We are not evil harpies trying to test you or humiliate you. If we go out with you its because we like you and we are hoping that you will want to be our boyfriend. But that doesn't mean we are going to sleep with you right away.

2007-01-21 16:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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2016-10-31 23:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by boddie 4 · 0 0

Don't listen to anyones "Rules for dating" Everyone is different. When I was single, I was kind of mean and no matter how interested I was I never, ever gave my number, I always said that if you wanted to find it out, you would think of a way. Also-different experiences warrent different responses.

2007-01-21 16:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by heatherhedyjon 2 · 0 0

well. I wouldn't want a guy who is all over me, but I wouldn't want to chase after him either because I dont think that girls should have to do that. Just start out easy, going somewhere after school/work for a coffee or something and see how it goes. I wouldn't play really hard to get cause that can sometimes turn a girl off. Just go with your gut.

2007-01-21 16:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine & summertime 3 · 0 1

Not good advice. If you like a girl and she gives you her number, call her the next day or at least the day after.

2007-01-21 16:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by freedove06 3 · 0 0

well ...
dont wait 5-9 days to call! trust me- we freak out when we have given our number to someone and they havent called. we sit around with the phone hoping they will call and if they dont, we freak out. and about the guy being funny-thats good, just not too funny.

2007-01-21 16:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by KATiE 1 · 0 0

yes. most of it seems really true. but well from the personal point of view, most feminine ladies would love to once in awhile hear a bit of compliments (when she's really interested in you). so, you know don't overdo this method too much & though you're not but it might occur to her that you're nearly a heartless dude just trying to win her over. well you got my point. ;) but overall, i think MOST women would say it's true. ;)

2007-01-23 15:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

some girls like challenges. as for me it is okay i don't want a guy who gets me everything i want or desire. i like a guy who stands up for him self not being a coward. i like a guy who takes control and makes me feel safe when i'm around him.

2007-01-21 16:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 4 · 0 0

sounds like your an ultimate game player my friend

your not going to be dating much because girls get sick of that quick, find some new game rules or soon you'll be out of the game

2007-01-21 16:21:18 · answer #11 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0 1

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