Survivor of suicide...What can I do?

Question

My dad committed suicide almost 3 years ago.It will be 3 years in April.My mom has a really hard time during April and May, they would have been married for 34 years in May.I keep telling her she needs to go to counseling for this but she insists she cannot afford it.Does anyone know resources that are available to the public that offer lower costs?

We live in GA.I have talked to my mom about going asking her doctor,which she did but the doctor never got back to her.I stay on her about calling the doctor.i would love to go with her but I have a 3 month old and work full time, so I dont have much time.

Thanks for all the answers!

Answer 1

I hope you'll be back for this answer. I lost my son to suicide in July of 2005. I thought I would never beable to live in this world without him. The best place for you and your mom is SOS Survivors of Suicide. They have groups all over the US. They are a group of people going through what we are and know the pain of losing our loved one to suicide.
It's very easy to find out whether there is a group in your area. On yahoo search, put in the words survivors of suicide. When you get to the site there will be a place to find out if theres a group in your area by putting in your zip code.
There are also so many sites you and your mom can go onto for survivors. I belong to many of them. They are forums where you can talk to others.

Try this one first.
www.suicidediscussionboard.com These people are all very compassionate on this board.

Answer 2

Try this website. http://casts.org.uk/

It is in the U.K., but they are always on and it is free. Otherwise you can check in your county or city directory and look up counseling services in the city gov section. They will be able to direct you to free services for those who cannot afford the assistance.

I'm really sorry for your loss. It must have been a horrible experience. I've gone through nursing my parents until they passed away, and had my sister taken unexpectedly, but never suicide. It leaves a deep, dark impression on the all the family members, especially if it's unexpected. I wish I could help. But if you ever need someone to speak to, you can reach me at [e-mail], okay? I'll be there for anyone who is going though a difficult time. And I will pray for your mom, you and all members of your family who were affected by this tragedy. I know there is a possibility that you may not have a Christian faith, but it doesn't matter. Prayer is always good. Take care.

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Answer 4

It is a shame when people commit suicide; they don't think ahead to the pain and suffering their family will go through.

Keep insisting that she receive counseling to help with the pain and grief she is feeling.

Although you may feel the pain also, being a family member, give your mother unconditional support; give her your shoulder to cry on as many times as she needs.

Do not suppress any urgings to cry! That is like trying to suppress grief; causes more damage in the long run. You must let the grief run it's course.

Hugging can also be a strong comfort that words cannot express.

Also, stand up and assume the responsibility for finding adequate, thorough counseling for your mother.

Please don't confuse my saying "assume" with "take." Although it's not your responsibility, what you say reads that you care enough for your mother to "take charge" and get the counseling.

Good for you!!

I really wish there were more people kind-hearted like you.

Just remember that this will take loads of time to heal. My prayers for you and your mother.

Answer 5

Talk with a local church within your community. My church helps with social, medical and psychological problems within a family. Just talking about the pain can be the cheapest way of easing the hurt caused by a tragedy. Ask your mother's friends if they wouldn't mind talking with her about what's bothering her. Maybe there is an Employee Assistance Program available through your job or your mother's job that offers free and discreet counseling. I wish you all the best!

Answer 6

It is normal for your mother to be depressed at that time of year and she may always be. Unless your mother seems suicidal, you should not worry to much. She lost the love of her life and will mourn that loss for the rest of hers until they are reunited. In the meantime, free counseling is available for low-income people (check with your doctor). You can also ask her priest/pastor to come over and talk with her about it (third party intervention). You can also find a widows/windower support group in your area for her to go to.

Answer 7

Your mom is very fortunate to have a caring child like you...

For the both of you there is a way to do some real comprehensive healing that is gentle, non-invasive, inexpensive and ongoing without even having to spill your guts repeatedly to a stranger "expert", if that is not your style. I am referring to the energy therapy called Emotional Freedom Technique. Dr. Candace Pert, author of "The Molecules of Emotion" says "EFT is at the forefront of the new healing movement." It is easy to learn and amazingly effective to apply once you know the basics. My son told me about it about four years ago and I ordered all the CDs. I went about sharing them with friends and clients over the years-- you are given permission-- actually it is recommended-- that you burn the CDs and give them to as many as 100 people.
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God bless you and your Mom in your healing!

Answer 8

If you live near a major university, I'm sure they have a school of social work. Those schools usually operate a clinic where social workers in masters degree programs train by treating patients. The clinics usually charge very low fees. Good luck - and I hope everything works out for you and your mom!

Answer 9

Try to find a support group in your area where people who have experienced the same thing gather and talk like once a month or so,they shouldn't have a fee or anything.It will probably be good for her to meet people that are going through what she is,you guys should do it together!

Answer 10

sorry for your loss..there should be some kind of support group for people who are grieving in your area.check it out with the hospital,your Doctor.these groups meet monthly and can be very helpful and free to attend .if your Doctor refers to mental health depending on where you live your health care may cover that cost as well ..ask your Doctor re free help resources..