I know this girl she is 27 and I'm 29, right now she is in final stage of her divorce and been separated from here husband for almost a year. I like here a lot and I know she feels the same way....she told me so and all the body language signs are hard to ignore. I've made my intentions very clear and she didn't resist but now she is telling me that she is worried because her divorce isn't done and she wouldn't want to loose me as friend...what does she mean by that?
what can I say to make her feel better about this?
2007-01-21 16:03:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
her husband is no issue...as a matter of fact he is already dating seeing someone else for 6months. She couldn't care less about him....and he is the one who is dragging his feet with signing the papers.
I just got out of a 5 year relationship back in October my self
when I was in the relationship I didn't see her often, only at social events with plenty of friends around including her husband who also is my friend
2007-01-21 16:22:25 · update #1
It seems that she is experiencing some sort of anxiety about ending her marriage and starting a new relationship so soon. The attraction/chemistry is very obvious to you both. I suggest that you give her some time to adjust after the divorce is final. Although she has been seperated for one year, there is still an adjustment to be made. Let her know that you are available as her "friend". She is going through alot right now and probably doesn't feel that she has the energy to begin a new relationship and you deserve 100%. Timing is everything. If you are truly interested give her some time. Good luck.
2007-01-21 16:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by jesenuf2u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe it means you are rushing things. i went through the same thing. i met a very nice man when i was separated and he just wanted me to take right up with him and date him exclusively..making plans to move next to or in with me, meet my kids and take them places, etc. it scared me away and i ended it with him!
i needed to be on my own a while..and MAYBE date. some people can jump right into another relationship, but i could not.
sounds like your friend feels the same.
if i were you, i would give her a whole lot of space and remain her friend no matter what she decides. even if she decides she likes someone else.
2007-01-22 00:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by annenymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient with her and the divorce. It is a rough time for her and she don't want to get involved into anything and get hurt again and lose you as a friend. Just give her time.
2007-01-22 00:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
clearly SHE JUST GOT OUTTA A MARRAIGE! Come on give her a break. give her time to be single/dating. u dont get into a serious relationship rite after u got divorced thats crazy. maybe she still has feelings for him. she just doesnt want to rush things. yes she likes u. but she doesnt want to start being all serious so soon. take things slow sheesh.
2007-01-22 00:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by gotumsprung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is afraid you won't keep waiting for her divorce to be final....if that is it then reassure her that you aren't going anywhere.
2007-01-22 00:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it was ok for her at first but now has lost interest, I would find someone unmarried and leave the married ones alone...too much baggage they dont want to get rid of it....move on..
2007-01-22 00:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be there for her as a friend untill she is ready to be with you
2007-01-22 00:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋