my 5 year old wont listen to me.....?

Question

no matter what i do she wont listen to me it takes me hours to get her to bed at night when i tell her no she just keep asking and asking its gotten so bad i cry at night because i am so frustreated.i have tried everything i love her so much but i dont know how much more i can take please someone help!!

Answer 1

My 6 year old daughter is sometimes like that. She was worse before. Try a time out, or make her go to her room. If she says no, grab her arm and take her to her room. When she stops crying/screaming, let her out. If that doesn't work-a good swift slap on the butt might be the soluiton.

Answer 2

My daughter went through a similar phase. The best thing that you can do is to tell her no like 2 or 3 times and just do you best to ignore the rest of her pesting and try to get her attention on something else that she would love. Bed time should be a routine. Take my children for example. They go to bed at 8, so around 7:30 they get a bath. I give my son his bottle, we brush everyone's teeth, and I lay my son down. Then I go in my girls room and I let her pick out a book and we read it. When we are done, I give her hugs and kisses and tell her good night and walk out. She did go through a phase where she would come out of her room after I layed her down or she would sit on her bed and scream for me to come back there. I did go back there a couple times just to tell her that I love her and that it's time for bed. When the screaming continued, I would walk outside, leave the door open and talk to someone on the phone and get myself distracted. I know that being a parent is hard and very trying, but be strong. God wouldn't have given you this child if he didn't think that you could handle it. Some other tips.... get the parenting magazine, they have tons of helpful info in there all the time and they cover all ages too. Good luck and stay strong.

Answer 3

all of my kids have a bedtime except my 2 yr. old son. Starting when he is 3 he will be going in at a certain time. I don't know why I chose 3 but I did. School nights all the kids go by 9:30 pm and 10:30 on weekends or non school nights. I tell them to brush their teeth by 9:15 and bed at 9:30 if they are good and go to their room and go to bed then great! if not I take 15 minutes off the next night every-time I have to talk to them to have them quiet down. They are for the most part really good about it. They are 9,8,7. and 3. You just have to get a routine down and stick to it unless an emergency or illness comes up. Don't let her know she is making you frustrated though relax and be firm. Good luck-easier said then done.

Answer 4

Many comments about spanking...this parent is frustrated and it's not ok to hit when your frustrated or angry.

Most 5 year olds try these tactics with their parents. You can ignore her. Say no over and over again. You can repeatedly put her back in her bed...but if it eventually doesn't work...what can you do?

You can have faith that she's only a little child, and in time, this will all go away. You can try making up routines and stick with them. Parenting is frustrating at times...and what you get frustrated about now will be nothing compared to what you get frustrated about when they are 10, or 16, or 21.

Just find within yourself the patience you need, and when you need a break, don't be afraid to ask for one. Ask your parents to keep her for a night. Ask a close friend for help. We all need help at one point or another.

You can do it.

Answer 5

Have you tried lowering the lights, playing some soothing music and LAYING DOWN WITH HER until she goes to sleep? Then you get up and go to your bed...Five is still really young.
A bedtime routine is really important for my kids. About an hour out, we lower the light levels in the house to kick their brain's melatonin production. We put on PJs, brush teeth, etc.After about a half hour, we read a story or two, (I use a book light) and I lay down with my daughter, turn on the music, we may talk for a few minutes, and then she'll start relax and to go to sleep. It usually takes about 20 minutesfor her to go out, but I see that as a good investment of time. It sure beats an hour or two of fighting something that I have no control over. You CANNOT make someone else go to sleep. You can't do it. So we do what is necessary to make going to sleep easier and more pleasant. Our lives got a whole lot better when I stopped worrying about what they SHOULD do, and just did what needed to be done to make it happen. My kids still need one of us to lay down with them for them to go to sleep easily. IN a short time, I'll feel lucky if they remember to tell me goodnight. :) So I'll just enjoy the snuggly time for now.

Answer 6

Set a bedtime, so she knows what to expect. Be consistent, Tell her it's bedtime, now go to sleep hunny. If she keeps asking tell her I said no, it's time to sleep, this is your warning keep it up and I will have to spank you, you have to listen to mommy. If she asks one more time swat her on the butt with your hand and tell her again, go to sleep, let her cry to sleep if necessary, but don't you give in. The first couple night will be hard but once she gets. Oh mommy isn't giving in. She will listen to you. My son is 4 I tell him Chase it's time for bed, or time to go to sleep goodnight I love you, and off he goes to his bed no problem. Don't make their bad a time out place, you can make bedtime more enjoyable by reading to them. Or you can give them a not so fun ultimatum either go to sleep or come and sit in time out until your ready to go to sleep , get my drift!

Answer 7

If she keeps asking, you must be giving in. Be firm. Put her in her room and walk away.

Answer 8

you have to lay the smackith downith on thy child saith the lord almighty

Answer 9

have you tried a spanking