The last time I was with my ex was in thanksgiving. It ended abrubtly. He couldnt take it anymore and left. He said I ruined the realtionship. Since then he has not called me or communicated with me just my sister.(to check on me). He came to the states to meet my family in the holidays because he wanted to make things right between us. He has cheated on me in the past but says and tell my sister his reasons, his reasoning to everyone he talks to is, he was not married to me, we never were intimate and it was a bachelor party thing. This is after we had made a commitment to be togther...except I was really wishy washy about the whole thing(being with him). He did jump thru hoops to try to get me back but I was really not nice , I was mean....and now that I hae not heard from him, especially after all the traveling he did to meet my family and we didnt , I feel very depressed, and hurt...I wonder if I should pursue in trying to get him back since he says he did all he can do to get me ?
2007-01-21 15:56:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Handle a cheating boyfriend by following these steps.
Instructions
•STEP 1: Acknowledge and accept your feelings of anger, sadness and disappointment over the betrayal.
•STEP 2: Don't blame yourself for his actions. Remember that you can't be responsible for anyone's behavior other than your own.
•STEP 3: Try to set aside your emotions and look at the situation from an outsider's point of view. What advice would you give to your friend?
•STEP 4: Evaluate whether his behavior has permanently destroyed your trust in him and in your relationship. Do you believe he won't repeat his actions in the future?
•STEP 5: Confront your boyfriend and tell him exactly how you feel about his actions. Let him know that cheating is not acceptable behavior in your relationship.
•STEP 6: If you feel you need to know why he cheated on you to obtain closure for yourself, listen to his explanations about his behavior. Remember that listening does not mean you condone, agree with or accept his behavior.
•STEP 7: Don't allow him to manipulate your feelings with sweet words of apology or promises never to cheat on you again. Be realistic. Do you honestly believe this was a one-time event, or do your instincts tell you that he'll probably cheat on you again in the future?
•STEP 8: Ask yourself if you would be better off with him or without him. Can you continue to enjoy the relationship, knowing about the betrayal?
•STEP 9: Find a constructive outlet for your emotions of disappointment and anger.
•STEP 10: Give yourself time to grieve over the betrayal. Whether you stay with him or not, forgive him for his actions so you can heal and move on with your life.
2007-01-21 16:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Christine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop placing all the blame on yourself. this guy caused you a lot of pain. and you're being mature by admitting that you did some things that weren't exactly nice.
sometimes relationships just don't work out because the two people just aren't right for one another. and it sounds like this could be one of those situations. only time will tell. give yourself some time to really think everything over, and ask yourself if you can seriously see yourself spending the rest of your life with him. when you can honestly answer that question, then you'll know without a doubt what you should do.
Best Wishes
2007-01-21 16:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 13:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by sather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just walk away. I don't talk to my ex's unless I see them in person in town alone. I like my space and to me it didn't work and I don't need to be best friends with them. As for talking to your sister and meeting your family that's messed up, cut the ties with your girlfriend you should just the same cut the ties with her whole family unless you were friends beforehand. But that's just my two cents. Be the bigger of the two and walk away. If he wants to carry on and talk to your sister and family I guess I would talk to them if its hurting you that bad.
2007-01-21 16:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by countryguy140 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a cheater. Sounds like you'd be in more pain if you got him back. Consider yourself lucky and move on.
2007-01-21 16:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u really love him - try to get him back to you, do whatever u can do.. everyone makes mistakes - u can forgive him for that.. but if ever, after u have also tried everything to get him back, & still he doesnt want to continue your relationship then that's the time u must let him go. good luck to u... for now, try to be strong not just for him, but also for yourself..
2007-01-21 16:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_MJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well said Christine!
2007-01-21 16:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is giving you so many reasons for being unfaithful are you sure you wan to be wif him?
2007-01-21 16:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by Vani R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l ive been threw it its not worth the pain be with him girl its what u want
2007-01-21 16:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut his nuts off so you'll both me in pain... together, like you had promised one another. ;-p
2007-01-21 16:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋