3 yr old granddaughter is a real handful...defiant, hits, talks back. Best way to discipline kids like this?

Answer 1

Stay calm and stay firm.....Make sure she knows the rules every time your with her......Before you go out and when she arrives at your house clearly state the rules. eg. In this house we talk nicely to people, there is no hitting or fighting blah blah blah then state the consequences such as........time out for breaking rules........but remember she is 3 this is pretty typical of a 3 y.o. I dunno where they got terrible twos from I think 3 is alot harder

Answer 2

I use time outs with my rambuncitous 3 year old. It's very important to follow through with anything you say to her at this age, too. Don't threaten time-outs twenty times before you do it, say it once and then put her in a quiet place with no TV, toys, etc...
Also, 3 is a good age to start a behavior chart. Something simple where good behavior in the morning gets her a sticker, (afternoon & evening same thing) and after she gets 4 stickers she can watch her favorite movie or play with an extra special toy. Let her know what behavior prevents her from getting a sticker. It may get worse before it gets better using the chart method b/c she'll naturally test her limits but it really works if you stick with it.

Answer 3

My son is pretty strong-willed, and I haven't been able to cure him entirely, but being consistent has done wonders. You have to make sure to have the exact same punishment every single time the offense is made. For example, if my son throws a toy, the toy is taken away for several days. If he hits, he goes to a "naughty chair" and is required to sit there until he is quiet for a few minutes (as many minutes as his age). I use a kitchen timer for this, and I restart it every time he kicks, screams, etc., etc., etc. They don't like being there. The sass, I flat ignore. Act like I haven't even heard it, and if it continues, then it's back to the naughty chair. You'll think your granddaughter is living in the naughty chair for several days (and it's likely that she will be), but she'll get tired of it.

And, if nothing else works, and the offense is repeated ad nauseum, there's always a good old... I believe it's been referred to as a "bum-warming?" Those work, too.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

If the parents don't do anything about her behavior then it will be impossible for you to do anything. You need to talk with her parents and let them know they need to step up to the plate, be the parent and discipline her for her really bad behavior.
My son, and his wife, never worry about me having his 3 girls over (for a night or entire weekend) because he knows I will discipline them just like he does at home. The girls also know this and they know when they do something wrong I will not let them get away with it. They all love me dearly and are great girls (because of the discipline). My son, and his wife, also nipped this type of behavior in the bud when they were 2.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

My son is the same way we have already had to go into his preschool for meetings because of this he even swears if you find something that works let me know because I am will to try anything at this point because a nice butt warming dont do nothing to my kid he just looks at me laughs and then hits me back!
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Answer 7

For talking back, you could dab a little white vinegar on a cotton ball and dot it on her tongue (better than the old "wash your mouth out with soap").For hitting you could sit her down on the floor on her hands.Always speak firmly to your child...but it isn't necessary to yell.Persistence is important as they will keep testing you.When they finally see they don't get the attention they want, they tend to stop the behavior. Then, when they act appropriately, really praise them loudly, over and over.

Answer 8

I don't think it is up to you to discipline her. This is her parents job. I would ask them what they do as discipline and ask if it is okay for you to do the same when you are watching her.
Good Luck to you!

Answer 9

MAYBE THE SAME WAY YOU DISCIPLINED HER PARENT OR A GOOD OLD FASHION SPANKING IS ALSO VERY EFFECTIVE IF IT IS ALRIGHT WITH BOTH PARENTS AND YOU ARE NOT OUT OF CONTROL.

Answer 10

consistancy, following up on discipline, being firm, do not threaten over and over, tell her something once and if she does not listen, follow through with whatever punishment you feel is adequate.