There is this really nice girl that really likes me and i like her to, but im afraid to ask her out because i am a crappy boyfriend (only because i dont know how to be one). what should i do?
2007-01-21 15:46:23 · 13 answers · asked by J_Dawg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do you know you are crappy? Maybe you can ask her as a friend at first? Having a gf is like having a friend, espically if you are new to haveing a gf. So do things together you both like to do as friends, like attend a dance, go to a movie, go ice skating, watch movies at each others house, work on homework together.
2007-01-21 15:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by Em C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HER!! Practice makes perfect. A boyfriend is more than just a romantic cuddle partner, it's a boy friend. A guy who is a friend. think of your buddies, you joke, spend time time together, have inside jokes.. The same thing with your girlfriend. Be yourself and chemistry will take care of you two. If you were meant to be together, everything will smooth out. Some things just feel natural and besides, all the mistakes, make the relationship a better one.
For example, the first time I kissed my boyfriend, we missed. Great thing to laugh about and it made a relationship one of laughter. Never serious and I like it that way.
2007-01-21 23:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by Janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now keep in mind this answer is coming from a girl who has never had a boyfriend.
One thing I can tell you will make a girl happy is to listen. You don't have to say much, don't have to do much, just really listen when the girl needs it.
Offer to be there for her. I know that I like being able to look at a man as the one who will protect me - so act that part. Be a little overprotective. It shows you care.
Be courteous, polite. Girls like to be treated like they are a person, not an object, contrary to what the media portrays us as. Most of us are not going to date for sex. We have brains.
If all else fails, just ask what she wants from you. Communication is key. It may be a bit awkward, yes, but at least you will have an answer straight from her. Tell her you want to work with her to make it a good relationship.
2007-01-22 00:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by lp62590 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to know is be friends first. Spend time together and hang out like friends. Second, call her every day or every other day to talk about your day or what's going on in your life. Buy her gifts on her birthday or anniversaries or valentines day. Tell her how you're feeling when she asks. If she ever gets frustrated with you just apoligize and tell her you're trying your hardest and how can you do better. She'll let you know if you mess up and how to improve if she likes you enough to stick around when things aren't so hot. If you have any questions you can't ask her, ask your friends.
2007-01-21 23:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by LAG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't put yourself down. To be a good boyfriend you have to show some initiative. Do things you wouldn't normally do and not to be afraid of what might happen. Let go and be yourself. You need to let this girl know you like her by talking to her just even saying hi will do it. Then later on let it just happen.
2007-01-21 23:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I'm in that situation too. It sucks cuz you think you've got a good thing going, but you don't know how to elevate it or maintain it. Gahh the woes of highschool. Can't really help you, but I'll be checking to see what others say for advice.
2007-01-22 00:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat her good buy her things show her that u like her to and care for her and dont cheat on her talk to her when she wants to talk and spend time with her as much as u can i mean my boyfriend shows me that he loves me and cares alot and everything and i see him once a month b/c he lives 334 miles from me and its hard to be this far apart but we make it work and we have been 2 together a year and 11 months now
2007-01-21 23:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on improving. Ask her to teach you to be a better boyfriend. ;D
some tips for things that she'll love you for..
If your still in school walk with her to her classes
wait around for her and txt message her cheesy things like " good morning beautifull"
Tell her you love her, and mean it.
Make her feel like shes the -only- one for you :D
what do you mean ur a terrible boyfriend.
2007-01-21 23:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't willing to try to be a boyfriend then you are in for a very lonely life. Just ask her out.
2007-01-21 23:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't beat up on yourself ... you recognize your past mistakes and that is a good sign. remember the golden rule... o.k., when dealing with others... treat others like you would want to be treated....
ask her out but find something fun to do.. no pressure and just enjoy... our abilities to communcate and socialize become better as we age and mature in life and experiences...
good luck... and be excellent to her.
2007-01-21 23:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋