What is wrong with seeing a married man or woman?

Question

If you are single, you are not the one who is doing anything wrong, YOU didn't take any vows, so why should you care? If they pursue you..

Is it bad? If you are not trying to take them from their husband or wife, you are just providing them fun and someone to have good fun with and physically?

No, he won't cheat on me, because I don't care what he does, I have no right to. I am just something on the side.

99% of men cheat anyways.

Right, I would be a new piece for him, but he is doing things for me, like paying my bills, so I don't care, I am benefiting

Don't almost all men cheat if given a good opportunity? If they KNEW they would never be caught, 99% of men would cheat!

I don't know HER, so why would I care? WHAT YOU DONT KNOW WONT HURT YOU....

Answer 1

unless BOTH of the people in the marriage are ok with this, you're completely disrespecting the person thats being cheated on. i bet you wouldnt like it if the person that you said "you and only you, till death do us part" was cheating on you, and if the other person involved knew and did nothing to stop it, that makes them just as guilty. seriously, what would you do if you knew your husband/wife was cheating on you? and if you're the type that would cheat on them, why bother getting married?

and you should have some respect for yourself, because this person is not loyal to you, they're going home and getting some there as well, you mean nothing to them other than what they might tell their scumbag friends about "what she did last night". i've seen it happen, its sickening.. you'd better just hope they're disease free and nobody gets pregnant.

do you ever want to have kids? do you want them to look at you as someone they can respect? because i know that if my mom or dad was doing something like that and knew about it, i'd be so sick and ashamed of them.... i dont think i could ever look at them again.

someday i assume you're going to be on the other side of a moral situation, whether its like this or not, you cant play both sides of the field, and your words will mean nothing to anyone if you havent lived by whats right in the past.

if you need to ask this question, then you know its wrong.

--- i dont know where you got 99% of men cheat, but thats bull, and if he's doing things for you such as paying your bills and buying you things, that just means that he's purchasing sex from you, and i think theres words for things like that. if he's cheating on someone he swore to spend his life with, you mean NOTHING. i spend money on objects, are you an object or a person? i've had hundreds of opportunities to cheat on someone, and i've never taken it once due to basic human respect. i could have done it and gotten away with it, but i guess at the end of the day, i'm not comfortable with just being a throwaway to someone, and i know that i wouldnt want to be the one on the other side of the coin, which is enough for me to know its wrong.

Answer 2

You may have not taken any vows, but you would be helping the married person break their vows, therefore you are as much to blame. You don't have to be married to commit adultery. If you have sex with someone who is married, the act of adultery has been committed and you were the one committing it, right? Not just the married person.
If they pursue you, you should tell them that their single days are OVER, hello Clarice.
Cheating is wrong. Even if you just want sex with no strings or have no intentions of taking them from their spouse, there is still the fact of sneaking around and the spouse who is not cheating is being lied to.
Now, if they have an open marriage, well, I guess it would be different.

Answer 3

Yes, it's totally wrong. You don't have to be married to commit adultery, you just have to be a willing participant. These people are also called home-wreckers... If you weren't sleeping with the married person maybe the spouses would work through their problems before any real harm was done... Marital infidelity is a leading cause of divorce and completely destroys both spouses lives and finances... They will each have to get a lawyer, who will end up taking half by the time it's over, and what's left will get split between the 2 divorcee's. If they've got kids that makes it even worse...

Would you see a problem with the other woman if your father had started stepping out on your mother?

Answer 4

What is wrong is that the person IS married, took the vows, and if you choose to be with that person, it is true that you are not the one breaking the vow, however, you will be looked upon poorly to put it nicely. Marriage is a union of two people, for life, not two then a chick on the side. Think of it this way, if he cheats on the wife with you, who is to say he wouldn't cheat on you?

Answer 5

I've never understood why girls get so mad at "the other woman". I think, she owes me nothing, she doesn't even know me, and she sure didn't vow to be faithful to me. She's just some little bit of trash he found on the side of the road and I'm certainly not going to get too worked up over garbage.

HIM, on the other hand, he's the one I'm going after with the butcher knife if I ever find he's got a mistress, especially if he's paying her freakin bills.

You just better hope that she never finds out if she's the bunny boiler type, or you might wake up one night to discover you are on fire.

Answer 6

I don't think your claim that 99% of guys cheat is accurate, but your question is interesting. I have often had the same idea. If a single person has an affair with a married person, the single one is 0% liable. But of course that wouldn't stop someone from beating the crap out of both of them.

I would say no it is not wrong for a single person to see a married person ... either sexually or just as friends. I've been the single person on more than one occasion.

Answer 7

It sounds like you are trying to rationalize cheating. If you have respect for relationships, you would respect the marriage relationship enough to not get involved in it. All of your rationalization will not get rid of the fact that it's wrong.

It sounds like you are acting in what you think is your best interest. If you truly cared about this person, you would do what you thought was best for him. Surely the guilt of cheating and possibly splitting up with the spouse would not be helpful for this person. If you truly respect him and care about him, you will support his marriage relationship.

Answer 8

YES, it is wrong MORALLY. Do you not have any morals, standards or values??

Yes, you didn't make the vow, that is true, but you are however, just as much to blame as them.

Put yourself in his wife's shoes and his families shoes...their marriage is forever ruined (with your help might I add). How would you feel if you were her and some dirty, good for nothing, cheap slut was sleeping with your husband and was partly the cause of the ruin of your marriage.

Grrr, I can't STAND women/people like you.

If you want to sex it up with lots of guys, FINE, but find a single guy, not a married one!

Answer 9

If you think there is nothing wrong seeing a married person,that is your options",live and let live".If the spouse of that person make you a punching bag and maimed or killed you,is your life worth it? for only a cheap trill and climax. A decent man would rather buy milk from the vendor,than be caught stealing milk from somebody's cow.

Answer 10

Trying to find an excuse for yourself? Lots of luck. Mostly it comes down to a matter of conscience. You must have a pretty low self esteem to go out with someone and sleep with them knowing that they're married and you're helping them cheat on their wife. One thing for sure, when you're married and some woman helps your husband cheat on you you'll have no reason to be upset with her or him.