About 3 days ago I found out that my boyfriend was smoking after school with this girl I dont like. He used to smoke A LOT before, but he stopped because he realized it was really stupid what he was doing to himself. I told him that if he started smoking again that i'd dump him. Then I find out that he was smoking. He didnt even tell me, he had to get my friend to tell me, he said it was because he was scared to tell me because he doesnt want to lose me. I cried so much...I love him a lot, thats why i was crying. He wanted to talk to me, but I didnt want to talk to him. Then after a while he was talking to me, he even started crying saying how much he loves me and that he'd never do anything like this again and that he'd never forgive himself if we broke up, I forgave him, and now a lot of my friends hate me for doing that, saying he'll just hurt me again. I love him, but I dont want to get hurt again. I have no idea what to do,I know this whole thing sounds pathetic but please help me
2007-01-21 15:44:17 · 11 answers · asked by female optimus prime. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Smoking is an addiction. How many people have I known who claimed they could stop whenever they wanted and then couldn't? Too many. Thing is, don't be surprised if you find him smoking something other than tobacco before too long. If I were you, I would dump him. Think of it in the long term. Suppose you were to actually marry this guy and have some kids. Then what do you tell your youngsters when one day daddy comes home from the doctor with the news that they found something in his lungs? Not worth it. 70 - 75% of the population in the US does not smoke. Stick with them.
2007-01-21 15:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Back With Your Ex Because Your Current Boyfriend Was Ignoring Your Calls Because He Was Watching "NigaHiga Epic Meal Time" And Your Ex Was The One Who Called You To Try And Get You Back So Get Your Ex And Tell Him That He Needs To Stop Being A Player While The Relationship And If Hes Sweet Go Back With Your Ex
2016-05-24 12:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserves second chances; in almost every given situation. You forgiving him, even with him doing something that you didnt like, and with someone that you didnt like, shows how much feels you have for him. However, if this becomes a problem, and you still find out that he's smoking with this girl.. or just smoking period, then you should let him go. Because that's when he starts lying... and if no one can be truthful with you, then they dont deserve you.
2007-01-21 15:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by missthang102390 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both love each other then stay together. Just talk to him about how you feel about smoking, but realize that he shouldnt have to change a habbit if he deosnt want to. There are many habbits that I have that bug the hell out of my fiancee lol, but she accepts me for me. Mabey ask him to not smoke around you, or mabey cut down. Make a compromise, but dont lose a loving relationship over something trivial as a stupid habbit.
2007-01-21 15:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't compromize your values for a guy. If you do not want to be with someone that somkes, than it is best to leave. My husband smoked when i met him, as friends, i told him i wouldn't date him because i didn't want to date a smoker, but i'd be his friend.. (the idea of kissing someone who smoked was a turn off for me.. gross) He quit, and about 4 months later we went on our first date, and he hasn't smoked in 7 years.
2007-01-21 15:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by Em C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong when love is right. If you think you love him and he feels the same, then you both can make the things right. You need to have the faith for yourself. Believe what your instinct tells you, if you don't feel right about something, probably this is not what you want down deep inside. Don't bother about what others say, this is your life, just be responsible for your decisions. Good luck.
2007-01-21 15:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhhh, the young at heart. You have a lot to learn in the ways of dating.
Problem is that nothing I could bring up you would consider, since young girls run the heart on their sleeve for affection.
I will throw this out though, if he was hiding this from you ONCE, good chance he will try again.
2007-01-21 15:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to know what the "right" thing to do is. You want this relationship to work, therefore you disregard your own ultimatum and forgive him. I suggest you make it very clear to him that you deserve only the best with someone who you can trust and most importantly communicate with. Hopefully, he is mature enough to understand how much you love and care for him. If not, his loss. Good luck.
2007-01-21 15:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by jesenuf2u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
catch him in the act of smoking with this oher girl and confront him about it. if he loves u he will stop. like he said he doesn't want to lose u. tell him if he doesn't stop smoking with this chick it is over between u two.
2007-01-21 15:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shows ur not mature enough. Grow up first before u date! Anyways, give him a 2nd chance...if he still does it then dump him.
2007-01-21 15:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋