I help manage an office when the main boss is away, and every so often I get into these weird exchanges with a senior employee. She starts off with constructive criticism, but seconds later is essentially ripping into me for ruining her life, destroying her morale, not setting an example for the entire office, and even blaming me for getting her sick. I don't see her that often, and 95% of the time she's very jovial and friendly. But about every 4-6 months she has a major meltdown and it seems I'm the one to take the brunt of it. Everyone else in the office says I'm great and fun to work with. Any idea how to deal with this odd personality and her flare-ups? It's making me want to avoid her more and more.
2007-01-21 15:43:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would avoid her. But, if you have the power to write her up when she goes into one of her rampages, you are going to have to bite the bullet, be the bad guy, and do it! Usually 3 strikes and your out! Maybe she will see that you mean business and begin to mind her manners around you, maybe even respect you for it. Don't let others take advantage of you and walk on you, or they will continue to do so. I'm in management, and I find that writing my employees up for stuff is the hardest part of my job, and it's never once gotten easier for me. You have to keep control though and show others that you should and will demand respect. Especially when you have done nothing to deserve the way she has treated you.
I hope this helps. I know how hard it is, but it's also part of your job.
Take care & best of luck!!
2007-01-21 15:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by oracle1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to work with Human Resources. Seriously, this sounds as though she could be dangerous if not dealt with. Document all conversations, have someone else in the room when she wants to talk. Refuse to talk with her alone.
But first of all, get this noticed by the HR folks. You are setting yourself up for all sorts of trouble if you do not deal with this.
Best of luck
2007-01-21 23:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by NeoArt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make fun of her in front of everybody whenever she has a meltdown
2007-01-23 02:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by NEXUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this person has non-work-related issues that are affecting her performance at work.
2007-01-22 13:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. Just AVOID her like she was the plague.
2007-01-21 23:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her comments we make our own lives!
2007-01-21 23:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋