would you compare a relationship to a job or career?

Question

I sometimes see relationships the same way as the dynamic of job ....for example, you search for the job, you bring your resume, you make an offer for the available position, the employer responds to you positively and hires you , and during your career, you can see that you can follow with this employer with a career or not , if no, you leave, if not, the employers fires you ..
and in comparison to a relationship, you spend your time seeking for a women, you find her, you seduce her, you offer your heart, she accepts, you are hired for the position of her unavailable heart to you , and you try to live up to her requirements, to see if you can make a career in it, until you get promoted to the position of husband ...!! if you don't see your life and future in it, you leave or she leaves ...it's a failure ..!! I think if you apply the same principles if you have success in carreer, you can also succeed in relationship ..what do you think ?

Answer 1

I think you are right in certain ways. But to simplify and assume the same principles will bring you success either way is, in my opinion, not valid.

First, when you are available and looking for someone (for a marriage, as you mentioned), you are willing to share your life with someone, no matter the conditions. This means you are from the beginning willing to grow up with someone. On the professional side, I don't think any professional enter a company willing to work his entire life there or companies are willing to hire someone on a lifetime basis. Ok, it happens eventualy, of course, but is not the initial plan of someone entering a company.

Another point is the willingness to change and how the society face this change. Better saying, If you find a better job that pays you much better, you decide to make a change and the society (including your wife) will see it as a very nice improvement. On the other hand, if you, during your marriage, find a better option (let's say a nicer and richer woman), if you are a good husband you won't even consider the choice, and if you do consider, the society will see it with very bad eyes.

I really like your approach. Sometimes I have also these thoughts and surely in many cases professional and personal situations are very similar.

My advice is:

Be the best professional and there will be many people interested in your work. Choose the best option as many times as you want, for the best of your life and career.

Be the best man, there will be a lot of women around. Think a lot before making a serious decision, like getting married. Make your decision, based in love above all, and stick to it forever.

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Answer 2

Mmm i'd say.. I don't know in a wy it doesn't seem right to compare career with relationships at least not for a true relationship where feelings are involved.

My opinion would be yes, to have a job goes like you said but the way a relationship can ocurr might vary... she can find you she can seduce you you can offer your heart... and thats only one way

Just don't think your love life like that... like a job... like a patter... I don't think you'd enjoy it... think with every person you could have a different kind of relationship