Seduce/attract, whatever...how do you do it without being too obvious of your intentions? There's eye contact, what else?
2007-01-21 15:19:04 · 10 answers · asked by Annalisa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For us guys, a girl who wants to attract or seduce us without being obvious has to have a lot of things going for her.
1. Looks--sorry, but the reality in attraction/seduction is based largely on looks, particularly if you want to go about it in a non-obvious way. If you want to get noticed, you should be reasonably cute and exude a good deal of confidence with your looks.
2. Heighten your looks by dressing the part. Nothing turns heads than a girl who dresses in interesting and fashionable ways. Don't dress like a tramp unless you want to be treated like one, but developing your own uniqueness in your clothing is an eye-catcher.
3. Using 1 and 2 above, all you have to do is make eye contact, smile at the person who sees you, and say, "Hi". Your greeting should be warm and sincere. Guys who get a smile, eye contact, but yet feel like your greetings are just matter of courtesy can become intimidated by you and feel that you're just playing mind games with them. They will avoid you if you do not come across as sincere.
4. Laughter is important. Chat with the guy about anything and laugh at his jokes or silliness. Guys love to be the center of attention and a girl who laughs when he think he's being funny will beg for more and will stick with you like a puppy dog.
5. Then move onto slightly more serious stuff like asking him about his goals, dreams, etc. If a guy tells you this and just blabs away, you're almost done and like the expression, "he'll be putty in your hands". The reason why is because at this point, the guy is beginning to connect to you and he's no longer intimidated by you, by your looks, by your confidence. At some point, he should ask you for a date or lunch/coffee.
6. Okay, say he's not asking you. No problem. Give him a clue like if you want him to take you to a movie, talk about movies you'd like to go see. If you want something to eat, say, "I'm kind of hungry right now" and then leave it open for him to figure it out. If he doesn't get it by now, then it's obvious you're trying to attract Forrest Gump.
7. Use the time that you spend together at your "social" (when he takes you out for lunch/coffee/someplace that doesn't constitute a date) to ask more meaningful questions to get him to talk about himself and also make him feel important. This is important because he'll gain more confidence to ask you out for a real date, ask you for his phone number, etc. At this point, he should then be taking you on dates afterwards and you have a new bf.
Now to seduce a guy, then you have to understand the typical guy's psychology in that that attraction is based upon the physical instead of the emotional. Play up all the qualities of the physical if you have them. Also being flirtatious, but not a tease speeds up the process of seduction.
Have fun and good hunting!
2007-01-21 15:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by yong_kyosunim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-23 02:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-18 10:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smile. if you talk to the guy give him inviting signs like brush your hair back when he's looking at your, sitting towards him, or a gentle arm touch as you're laughing at one of his silly/ funny jokes; oh and ask genuine questions showing you are interested in his career, hobbies, morals etc. be careful though we are guys and sometimes get the wrong impression when a girl is flirting so don't go overboard. if a guy pick up on subtle hint, you're messing with one inexperienced guy and probably someone you don't want to date anyway...
2007-01-21 15:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by David W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound negative, but here goes...
Why don't you want to be obvious about it?
If you really like him, is it bad to let him know?
If he says no, will it be too embarrassing?
If you really don't want to be too obvious, talk to him and see how much this relationship will be worth to you. If you think it will be really serious, find a way to let him know. If you have mutual friends, talk to them.
2007-01-21 15:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-08 16:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply, just let him know you are interested and let it go from there. If it works out, great! If not, you haven't wasted your or his time.
2007-01-21 15:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sandra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen. Talk. Get to know him better.
2007-01-21 15:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by J T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dress sexy and talk to him
2007-01-21 15:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by don;t know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋