i've been prepping my son for toilet-training for months now... but lately he gets upset at the mention of "diaper" and/ or "potty". I've never forced him onto the potty... My concern/ question is - could this be a sign of any abuse ? He was in daycare a few months ago. He has been going through many transitions also lately. SOmetimes he cooperates, but sometimes he really gets upset.
2007-01-21 15:14:01 · 11 answers · asked by Jarna R 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Thanks so far everyone...
I was thinking mostly like SourGrapes- he just doesn't want anything to do with a diaper change... i've never called it yucky, but the other day he pointed to the potty and said "yucky". .. another thing i meant to mention is that when i change him, he covers his peepee and says "don't touch"- like to himself- like someone told him not to touch it. THis bothers me, and got me on the abuse thought train...
2007-01-21 15:28:21 · update #1
He did just have a checkup, everything's on target, though this thought hadn't occurred to me until today. So while I was researching online "signs of abuse" and "potty training" I came across Yahoo answers.
BUt thanks for all the tips.
2007-01-21 15:37:39 · update #2
I'll give you my opinion from having 3 children and being a stay at home dad for 6 years, but if you're worried he may have been abused, I'd take him to the doc just for a check up to eliminate any concerns.
I have changed over a few thousand diapers over the last 6 years with my three kids, I had this phase with all of them. the first phase was always "lets take our diaper off and piss on the floor" then there was the "I'm not going to wear anything" stage. this stage for me is a nightmare as my youngest one(16 months) is going through it now and he also will not have anything to do with the potty. this stage is perfectly normal for all three of my children and I've never even thought anything funny of it, its just a stage of my child trying to be more independant than he is capable of being.
Now, I've learned the easy way around this for me is getting pull ups and sleepers with the button over the zipper at the top. if he takes his diaper off i'll make him put the new ones on and make it seem like he's the coolest thing on the planet, works like a charm. if he's got a "poopy diaper" I will take the clean diaper and hand it to him, he holds it like its a mask and stays still until I've got him clean, most of the time it ends up being a mask...lol, seriously.
if he/she is fighting you over it, you have to realize that our children want validation at all stages of life. they want you to know they're older than you think they are.
Lastly, if you suspect your child has been "victimized" don't ask around on the net, take him to the doc.
2007-01-21 15:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by a really long name on yahoo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Toddlers LIVE for control. I am fighting this same battle at my house right now. I give my son a choice. I tell him he can wear diapers or underwear. That gives him some control in the matter. He knows if he is wearing underwear he needs to use the potty. We are also try a sticker chart. He gets a sticker each time he uses the toilet. After so many stickers he earns a prize (10 stickers=small toy, 2 stickers=sucker etc) you need to find something that motivates your son. It's hard. Some days go great over here...the next day my son shouts in horror at the mention of the potty. Just know that toddlers want control. Our trick as parents is- We stay in control but let them think they are the ones calling the shots. Good luck!
2007-01-21 15:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by aerofrce1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the abuse bit (anything is possible these days). But gentle coaxing is the way to approach toilet training. Don't force the issue, he will go when he's good and ready. Remember children as old as 4 will still have little accidents. It's not worth stressing over. You could always offer him something interesting to hold during diaper changes or make an offer he can't refuse if he cooperates.
2007-01-21 15:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going to sound truly undesirable, yet when he's no longer waiting to apply the lavatory and he's unwilling to get his diaper on then you may do 2 issues: at the same time as and if he is going potty on the floor, have him sparkling it up - how quick will he keep in mind that his mess is meant for the lavatory AND he would purely learn the thanks to delight in the position you're coming from. The charts are tremendous on condition that he's prepared to do it. Bribing will make issues worse - he will quickly assume a manage. a training potty for him would help, you may take him to the keep and performance him %. it out and performance him beautify it with stickers, or maybe enable him %. out some cool education pants or undies. tell him a dry week = a visit to the ice cream keep or chucke cheeses. Incentives, - no longer bribery. good success! oh, attempt potty books for kids or maybe video clips made for kids - look interior the generic public library for them.
2016-10-15 22:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by charis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is becoming more aware of how uncomfortable it is to have a wet/dirty diaper, so he dreads anything to do with it.
Also, at this age, he probably has much "better things to do" than sit still for the 60 seconds it takes for a diaper change. When there are toys to play with and house pets to terrorize, how can a toddler possibly concentrate on anything else???? Ha ha....
Good luck!!!!
2007-01-21 15:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He having CONTROL issues with you, that's all. Stop "prepping" him, andjust do it. Put the ball in his court. Give him the control. Take away his diapers, cold turkey. tell him to go potty when he needs to, reward him when he does, and don't make a big deal of it when he screws up, and most of all DON'T NAG or try to force him to go potty.
2007-01-21 15:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually this is a sign that he doesn't respect your authority.
you don't need to prep for months. just do it.
make a rule and stick by it; it will pay off in the long run
2007-01-21 15:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by Becky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the cherrios method, put them in toilet and see if he can hit them, also heard or a prize box in the bathroom to reward success.
2007-01-21 15:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by steven p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try the pull up type. I found some nice ones at this link on ebay
2007-01-23 04:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE HIM TO YOUR DOCTOR...I DON'T THINK THIS IS A QUESTION FOR THIS ON A COMPUTER. IF YOU HAVE REAL CONCERNS ANYTHING INVOLVING CHILD ABUSE, GO TO THE DOCTORS TOMORROW WITH HIM. DONT IGNORE THOSE THINGS YOU FEEL
2007-01-21 15:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋