Now before you think i am the crazy ex, i am not. We are friends, we split because he said he wasn't happy and needed to work on himself. I love him and think of him all the time, i know before i call that i shouldn't but i still do it. How can i give him space without cutting off contact completely?
2007-01-21 15:08:51 · 19 answers · asked by charlene 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
mmm i am having the same problems, i just can't help it, right?
i did a very violent thing, i smashed up my phone, cut off my line, and has been living without a handphone for 3 days .. and just start to move around, nothing to do then go shopping, library , just dun stay near somewhere with a telephone ...
well i will watch this question here, hopefully find better solutions ..
2007-01-21 15:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kiki 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im wondering the same thing! It is really hard! I find myself thinking about the times we laughed or something we talked about and I just want to call. I text everyday!! I went 5 days without calling or texting and it seemed as if that was the hardest thing I had ever done! Take it one step at a time. I love my ex and I even laugh at the arguments we had! Its gonna take some time. Give him some space and do what I do sometimes....I write in my journal whenever I get those impulses to call him or text him.Read what you wrote and you will see that you probably already told him whatever it was you were gonna text or call him about. Hope it works out for U!
2007-01-21 15:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time you feel the urge, sit down and make a list of other things you can do. Some of them should take awhile, like walk on your treadmill or around your neighborhood for 30 minutes, or go shopping. Others should be quick, like clean your junk drawer. Another can be write a letter to someone you owe a letter. Another can be do a sudoku or crossword puzzle. Wash your hair. Balance your checkbook, clean your closet, bake something new, leave your house and visit a relative or someone in a nursing home, paint your bedroom a new color, repot some plants, give yourself a manicure and/or pedicure. Whenever you get the urge, pick up your list and cross something off after you do it. It sounds hokey, but you need distraction , and that will help.
Tell yourself that you have self-respect, and if he told you he wasn't happy and needed to be apart from you, don't push yourself on him. You deserve someone who cherishes you, who wants you, who is at his happiest when he's with you. He knows where to find you, if he wants contact.
2007-01-21 15:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know it's hard, but the best thing to do is let him miss you. Maybe you can leave his number at home. If you don't have it in your phone, you probably don't remember it, then you can't call. The thing that works for me...If you can go a day without calling then the next day you won't want to have wasted the effort. Then after a couple of days, it'll be easier because you won't want to waste all of the time that you didn't call. Just don't do it!! Good luck
2007-01-21 15:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Krissy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly- If you are calling him on a cell phone then you need to delete it.
If he really ended it to work on himself than you have to respect than and allow him the space.
Let him call you- and try to fill your time with other friends and hobbies.
Its hard at first but if it is really meant to be- it will work out.
2007-01-21 15:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sadey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely do not carry your cell phone around with you at all while you are going through this phase. Sure, you will have catatonic withdrawal symtoms, but that will help you realize how freaky you have been acting toward him and how you have been undermining yourself and causing him to have an even lower opinion of your own worth or self esteem. Believe me, what you are doing is making matters decay rapidly. Quit it now!
2007-01-21 15:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Comanchero 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realize that calling and messaging is very selfish if he asked for space. If you care for this person, give him what he needs. That's what a friend would do. Put his feelings ahead of yours in this situation.
And find something to do that has nothing to do with him so that you can keep your mind occupied.
2007-01-21 15:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
if he wants space, give him so much space he'll have to call nasa for directions. get involved with something else. if he needs to talk to you, let him be the one to reach out to you since this whole space program was his idea. don't chase, i know it's hard cause you care and you miss him, but this is just his way of telling you that he's not that into you the way you are with him. let him miss you.
2007-01-21 15:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by Debt Free! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get A Rebound Girlfriend or Boyfriend
2007-01-21 15:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
im in the exact situation your in. except im the one that needs time. I know if you keep calling your ex your going to drive him away. If you really want to keep him in your life ease up a bit give him some space, call him ever so often but not ALL the time. hes prolly just tryin to sort things out in his life. and needs less added stress of a relationship. you just gotta set your mind to give him what he needs. and jsut let him know when you do talk to him that your willing ot wait for him however long it takes and that your there if he ever needs to talk. :)
2007-01-21 15:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by princessofthesticks31 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋