When our daughter is quiet he's fine with her. She's only a week 6 days old. When she cries because she's gassy or hungry or just wants to be held he gets so frustrated and angry he says she could never be his. He says "no baby of mine would act this way". I don't know how to handle this. When she's quiet he'll tell me "I know she's mine I just get frustrated sometimes and say stupid sh*t". It frustrates me sometimes because he's not here 24/7 to hear her cry every single time like I am. He gets to go to work every day. I don't know what to do when he gets like that. He's basically calling me a liar and telling her he doesn't love her whenever she cries and it hurts me and he doesn't understand that no matter how much I try to explain it to him. What should I do to help him cope with her crying?
2007-01-21 14:55:52 · 14 answers · asked by Lissa 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Go visit Maury and straighten it all out. In the meantime, keep him on the far side of your trailer.
2007-01-21 15:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to grow up, talk to his mother and tell her the problem she may be able to help, by letting him know what he was like when he was a baby, tell him that it is the way that the baby communicates as it can't talk yet, and that the baby has different cry for different things that are wrong with it. A baby is learning from the time of conception and if he keeps on the way he is he is teaching his child bad habits that he will regret one day! It sounds like you need to call his bluff and tell him the next time he says that the baby isn't his, that he is welcome to get a paternity test, and while he is at it you will file for child support after you pack his bags! Good luck
2007-01-25 14:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by christine s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not get overwhelmed and don't be disturbed!.. she continues to be an truly youthful infant.. She cries for you adult males, because she recognizes you 2 fulfill her needs. Does she cry plenty? once you carry her does she end or keep crying?She would have colic if she retains crying. Or she would merely want to held plenty. My daughter become like that.. She not in any respect had to placed down, in certain circumstances it become demanding and stressful (because you won't be able to carry somewhat one 24/7, notwithstanding I truly did merely that for almost 3 months..). She might want to scream bloody homicide if all of us yet me or husband held her.. That section exceeded as she were given larger..My daughter is now somewhat one and that i need to chase her to get a hug.. haha.. savour this time, as i'm effective you've heard earlier, they strengthen up too quick!!.. It heavily isn't lengthy earlier you're chasing her around the abode!
2016-12-02 21:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you dating this guy? plans to get married?
This sounds like he doesn't trust you to some degree or that he wishes he didn't have this child.
Tell him that you need him to be a parent to this baby, because she is here now, and there is no going back. Tell him it hurts your feelings when he makes those comments, and let him know that when she grows older, she will hear and remember what he says. Ask him to work on it now, maybe even seek help, so he doesn't affect your daughter with his feelings of regret or anger.
2007-01-21 15:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by lotusbrenda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he'll get over it. He is probably just overwhelmed. It will get better. The first few weeks are hard for everyone. I was in a similar situation with my son and his father, but we got through it and now my son is 3 and he and his father have a great relationship.
A mother's bond is always stronge, especially when the baby is so young. He may feel disconnected from her because he doesn't know how to stop her from crying, especially if she stops crying for you. You should show him what you do to stop her from crying and maybe he'll learn and feel more connected.
2007-01-21 15:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take a DNA test and make him understand that the baby cries or not doest mean its his or its not! babies do cry and thats normal. Seems like he is NOT ready to be a father not at all! But take the test so he can NOT get on your neurvs like that again , he needs to appreciate everything you do and be there for you, and when he is he needs to act like a father to that baby!
2007-01-21 15:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpio Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't put up with his BS!! If he thinks he's not the Father, tell him to pay for the DNA test. Tell him he needs to control his anger around your baby and if he can't do that, suggest he take a parenting class or anger management. He is a grown man and should realize that babies are going to cry and he needs to learn how to deal with it---
2007-01-21 15:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by busymom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say what I would really like to say right now because it would be disrespectful to your daughter's father, but there is a deeper problem here. I think anyone who would bring up an issue of paternity like that just because their baby is crying is troubled by something.
2007-01-21 15:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by sbma88 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? I'm not asking to be rude, but people of different ages react to all things differently. A baby can be a stressful thing especially for young adults. Please just make sure it doesn't go any further than him making those comments. If he starts to get even the slightest bit "abusive" towards her, take her somewhere more safe!
2007-01-21 15:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't do anything to help his sorry *** "cope". What a bastard he sounds like. That's his daughter, and he needs to know that babies cry.
Oh, honey... please get yourself and the baby out of there or at least get some counseling. That baby is the most important thing in your, and you certainly don't deserve to be called a liar. What's next? Is he going to start hitting her when she cries? You need to do something NOW, talk to someone (your mom? a sister?) who will support you.
2007-01-21 15:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by edkolover 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hon, babies cry. He needs to get used to that.
If this is a problem for him, there are some fairly inexpensive paternity tests available.
It won't change the fact that babies cry.
Tell him to go talk to his mother about babies. She will set him straight.
2007-01-21 15:13:31 · answer #11 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋