Ok, so this guy liked me for about 2 years. I went on a date with him, told him I liked him, but I was beginning to realize I was at a phase where I wasn't ready to be with someone long-term. So rather than hurting him when the relationship was serious, I gave him no-go signals. However he continued to like me. So then in September, he began dating my best friend and they're still together. But she only wants a casual relationship and I've been told by numerous people that if he found out I liked him, he would drop her for me. Well...I like him. I in no way at all want to hurt my friend. But this is the first time in a long time I've been this certain about liking someone. I don't know what the hell I'm supposed to do.
2007-01-21 14:53:07 · 11 answers · asked by SerenityFilas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you positive that you are not just feeling like this because he is no longer available? I mean, maybe you just want him because your friend is with him??
If you are sure that as soon as you 'get him' you won't lose interest, I think that you need to tell your friend, & the guy, the truth!
I am in a similar [but not identical] situation right now, & as a consequence of being torn between a friend and potential partner I have lost my friend [possibly for good] but I am still extremely happy with how things have turned out!
so, you need to do what you think is the right thing for you!
after-all, if he is the 'one' then he will be both your best friend, & ur boy friend!
2007-01-21 15:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, ok i think of you know that cheating on your female chum wasn't the ultimate factor to do and you will needless to say could settle for duty for that, yet additionally relish that we are all human and blunders are a classic area of existence and that's something you're unlikely to do back. Harming your self does not help every physique and right this is the foremost to fixing your difficulty. relatively than punishing your self for undesirable issues you could initiate performing to create constructive circumstances and while issues do pass incorrect, use your potential to place issues top or help different individuals greater advantageous than the quantity of harm you grow to take heed to you brought about. You being harm does not income every physique. that's a annoying lesson to settle for, yet relatively the wonderful and maximum brave factor somebody can do while they make a mistake is to confront it and attempt and turn the unfavourable into an excellent. finally you sound such as you're tormented by low shallowness. although the certainty you have striven to provide up self-harming shows very lots of braveness and duty which you would be able to nicely be pleased with. that's alright to make blunders considering is how we strengthen and grow to be greater advantageous human beings.
2016-10-31 23:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by bonanno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, this isnt about your friend.... its about u and him whoever he is. do it step by step. first, talk to him but before you do, ask your friend if she is certain that she really likes him. if she is, still talk to him but DO NOT tell him u like him bc chances are, he'll dump her for you and she'll be hurt. the catch is, if she doesnt want him and tells u its okay to go after him, she mite do the same as you did.. realize that later on shes mad about him.
i hate to say this, but either way, someone is going to be hurt and if you want to keep it minor, dont make a move until your heart feels that its right.
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2007-01-21 15:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by babiibrownie818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For pete's sake, if you like this person that much, just tell them how you feel. You run a risk of getting hurt either way, but at least if you confess your emotions, you'll figure out what to do based on what they say.
2007-01-21 14:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, if they just have a casual relationship, then who's gonna get hurt?
2007-01-21 15:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by littlegirllost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take no action, do you want to ruin this for your friend? You had your chance why are you deserving of another turn it would be very fickle of you to ask him out again.
2007-01-21 14:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Roger J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's be sincere for a sec; so you were in a relationship with him before and you dump him, now that he is with your friend you realized that you were meant to be, i guess that you're being selfish so if she is your best friend just let them be togheter.
2007-01-21 15:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by bravo20212000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no guy is worth a friendshipwith a best friend!!!!!
2007-01-21 14:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by jessica p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you two are meant to be, it will be........
but never, NEVER betray your best friend for a man....
just wait....and time will tell.
2007-01-21 15:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by Lala Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not married
2007-01-21 15:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋