I have been dating this girl for 9 months living with her for 6. Out of the blue about 3 months ago things changed. A girl who was once madly in love with me, praising me for making her happy has done a complete 360. She now spends all of her time online playing games and talking with people. I would normally not care but she flirts so much. Not to mention I caught her ex sending her messages like "hey cutey", and things like that. When I try to spend time with her she gets very defensive and says im trying to control her. She also started constantly flirting with different people. I think she was like this before, as she said her last ex was extremely jealous.
She is 3 years younger then me, and I am trying to figure out how to salvage this relationship. I don't know what the hell I did wrong or where I went wrong but I feel awful. She makes me feel like im just a pawn in her little game. I love her to death, but this reverse in her emotions is destroying our relationship.
2007-01-21 14:46:48 · 8 answers · asked by pokerfan77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Adding. I am 99 percent sure she hasnt cheated on me, and I know she hasnt talked to her ex in awile... But why does she flirt so much?? Why is it when I say it bothers me she just does it more and more?
Why did this girl who once would do anything for my love, now seem to be out to destroy me emotionally as well as our relationship? Am I being paranoid?? Girls please help me.
2007-01-21 14:48:00 · update #1
To the person who said to leave without notice.. Pretty funny you mentioned that since her last boyfriend just left her without notice or anything..
2007-01-21 14:53:52 · update #2
Crap.. It is ashame, this girl just does not seem like she knows how to handle a serious relationship. I can see her 20 years down the line looking at what she could have had. She just seems to subconsciously want to destroy every relationship she is in.. She often tells me about how most of the relationships she has been in never last longer then a year..
2007-01-21 15:00:03 · update #3
You may be over reacting and what you call a 360 may simply be her need for personal space. She gave herself to you with so much passion that she lost herself. Let her breath! Talk with her not some blind chat box looking for the words you want to hear. Don't judge her by past performance in a relationship. You don't know both sides of those rumors and it's of no concern now. Where does she sleep...with you! Put on your big boy pants, say your sorry, forgive her & yourself for thinking such ugly things, and move forward with the relationship. If she's on the computer all the time doing whatever, it's probably boredom. Ask her what she wants to do once in while and do it (yes even if it's to watch a chic flick) These are the compromises people in love make for each other. I know it's hard for a guy to accept, but women do not live for sex. And our capacity to "worship" you wanes with time. Now get off this sorry computer and go on a date with her!!!!! And for God's sake, let her pick the place, complement her, and put on a clean shirt!
2007-01-21 15:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by fuzzbutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a disaster to me. Could be just about anything at all on her mind. Maybe you moved in together too quickly. Maybe she & her X were on the fence when you got with her & now they are starting to work things out & youre stuck in the middle. Maybe you ARE controlling. 3 years younger than you could be a problem, but we dont know your age. At younger ages, a little age gap translates into big trouble sometimes. Men & women mature at different rates & go through life at different paces. Its a strain on anyone. I would recommend spending some time apart & see what happens. If you stay together, then YAY! If not, you'll be spared the trouble of being thrown out & looking for a place at the last minute, but at least then, you'll know the truth & can move on and SALVAGE YOUR LIFE. Thats more important, anyway. good luck
2007-01-21 14:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After reading the first part of this I came to the conclusion that you need to leave. She's not giving you the time of day. She's acting like she don't care about you. In this case I suggest moving out while she's gone and don't give her any notice. Not only would she get the pic. but she would maybe realize that she treated you like **** and you're not about to put up with it.
My first thought is that she's using you for your income.
2007-01-21 14:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm there too, I'm gonna sit down with my gal and talk to her . I'm gonna let her know how she hurts me, not that she pisses me off. I or we are planning to start a business but I am gonna let her know that I love her dearly but----- I will not accept the funding for the business unless I feel more secure with our relationship. I love her and I promised for better or worse and will work to make things better but I won't have time to build a business.
2007-01-21 14:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Terry K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think maybe you need to talk to her and tell her exactly whats on your mind
2007-01-21 15:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is trying to push you away. Getting you to end it and leave.
2007-01-21 14:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's over .Move on!
2007-01-21 14:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by jean 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is probably bi you better keep this one the more the better
2007-01-21 14:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by boo-bear-360 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋