Well i have never met this person, but talk all the time by email and phone. We have so much in common and from waht we can tell are perfect for eachother. On the other hand how do you honestly know what the other one is doing all the time if ure not there. I guess its complicated but we want it to work. He is planning a trip to come see me in a couple weeks....Thing is we both have school..What do i do?
2007-01-21 14:37:25 · 6 answers · asked by Mel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had to add this... We meet through a friend not through the internet. and we have been talking for a year now so....
2007-01-22 07:17:39 · update #1
The only way you can truly be sure the person is right for you is to spend time with them in person.
With internet dating and chat rooms, you can never be sure how honest the other person is being with you. Even if they send you pictures, you see each other on webcam, you talk every day... nothing compares to being with each other and spending time with them in the flesh.
Also, if you haven't met this guy before, PLEASE make sure you let your friends or family know that he is planning to come and see you. You can't be sure if he's SAFE. Where is he going to stay when he comes to visit? If you meet him and there's no chemistry, is he going to be stuck staying with you the whole time he's there?
There are a lot of things to consider. But before you worry about a "relationship" with the guy, meet him with no other expectations other than to just be friends. Time will tell the rest.
Again, I can not stress enough how important it is to protect yourself and to be SAFE about all of this. There are a ton of people out there who start out being sweet, sincere, and romantic, because that's their way of reeling in the young, naive, and innocent. Just be careful.
2007-01-21 14:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mandy P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've never met in person. all you've invested is time and maybe some long-distance charges. it's easy to be whoever you want to be per email or phone. you won't know who he really is until you've met and spent quite a bit of time together. so, GO FOR IT! meet him! you'll know if there's chemistry when you see each other. then, take it from there. take your time and DON"T rush into anything just because you're caught up in the moment. if you click, you can continue your relationship by phone & email , getting together as time allows . then you both can carry on with school and really get to know each other better while maybe making some future plans..........ok????
2007-01-21 22:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by kittymom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to really trust the person in order to make a long distance relationship work. My bf and I have been dating long distance for 5 months now.......I am now going to move in with him as soon as I can get a transfer through work
best of luck to you!! Dont let anyone tell you it doesnt work...I dated a man for 3 years long distance until he was killed in a car accident. I swore I wouldnt be in a long distance relationship again....and here I am.......it can work if you really want it too
2007-01-21 22:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by Some Blonde Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the t ime long distance relationships don't work, and you don't know what the other person is doing all the time.
2007-01-21 22:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take this slow. don't blow all your money driving back and forth. Don't spend it all on phone calls either. Work this out use the time to get to know each other from a distance.
good luck
2007-01-21 22:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you think you are good enough to meet someone face to face there at school? stop being afraid-get with the program and face the music..real relationships start in the real world-not in virtual ones.
2007-01-21 22:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by sugardaddysgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋