Does She Like Me?

Question

Sigh...I'm torn apart over this girl.Okay, here's the deal:I really really care for this girl but I don't know what she feels about me.She is a very unstable girl and if anything bad happens around her, she is convinced that its her fault.I talk to her on the phone a fair amount, and I see her at school and we talk through email but she worries me all the time.When we talk on the phone, she will tell me secrets that she claims that her best friend and I only know about. But, she may turn right around and start talking about one of my friends that she likes, or some guy that works in her favorite store that she likes, or tell me about a time she made out with one of my "enemies".I always try to comfort her in some way or another.She always believes that things are her fault.Also,She hugs all other friends but not me.I love her to death and I worry constantly about her well being.I've have sorta told Her I like her in an email but I'm one of 3 guys.I'm least attractive of the 3.plzhelp

Well...things keep getting worse and worse. I took your advice Ciavana, and tried to hug her but she intentionally picked up something off her desk so I couldn't. It was the most humiliating and dissheartening thing that I think I've ever been through. I think it's pointless. She has started showing favoritism to one of the other guys that's competing for her attention. She won't even answer the phone when I call her now. She doesn't email anymore either. I haven't done anything that I know of to make her crush me like this. I can't even talk to her in private to ask her or apologize because that other boy is always around her and she won't seperate from him for 3 seconds. What do you think? Am I fighting a losing battle...I don't want to forget about her.

Answer 1

You're the one that she needs the most. honestly, I'm like that girl. I can sorta understand that. The reason that she doesn't hug you is because you mean the most to her; and are so over-powering and an embodiment of everything that is important to her and everything she's ever wanted. You should hug her. Not just once. Do it often. When you see her. Her well-being is probably an inciteful realization of your desire to be with her. You obviously care so much for her, and you understand how stable she becomes when you're around. She only tells you those things because she wants you to feel the same way she does, and she's afraid of rejection. When you have someone standing right in front of you, and you like into their eyes, sometimes their light is so overpowering that you can't even see how much they love you. You question it. And that's what she's doing. She's thinking that you are too good to be true, and that if she keeps you as a friend, she'll never lose you, and you'll also not be a part of her one-time crazy flings with other guys. Right now. I have someone in my life like you, and I only wish he knew this. I wish he would have hugged me more than once.

Answer 2

Sometimes the direct approach is best, just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question.
1) Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?
2) Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something.
3) Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away.
4) Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
Just remember, take each moment like it will be the last. This I feel will be a good start for you in knowing. Good Luck!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Ok, I'm a girl. I'll try and offer the best help, that I know of. Girls, are very shallow people on the outside. That's pretty much why they talk about 'hot' this and that, but when we talk on a serious level, we want the company of someone who cares for us, because that's what matter in the end, it's what lasts. So who cares if you're attractive or not, if you really care for her from the bottom of your heart, you can't go wrong, unless she just can't return your feelings. Just remember you can't make someone love you, they just do. Love is a strange thing.

My advice for you is to go and tell her plainly the truth. Be straightforward. Then you'll feel better, believe me.

Answer 4

you sound really...um...i feel sorry for you rite about now. man..fool you really love her dont you?!?!
i have to say that she sounds really special if someone is talking about her like this. talk to her. stay being her friend. she obviously trusts you with all her secrets. dont lose her trust. tell her how you feel, and if shes really your friend it wont ruin your friendship.