I'm anti-abortion right. but My boyfriend wants me to get an abortion. He said that he would not be able to be there for me like I would want him too. How ever that is. I feel like I need to prove something to him. Has anyone had an abortion and did you hate the guy after or was it just like another day. I have two kids and I'm a single mom but kill my child because some man wants the easy way out of life. He said he love me but I don't know what to think now.
2007-01-21 14:33:38 · 21 answers · asked by lucille692003 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I had an abortion 15 years ago and have felt the most excruciating pain in my heart every single day since. IF I COULD GO BACK IN TIME TO ANY SINGLE POINT IN MY LIFE AND UNDO SOMETHING IT WOULD BE THAT. I regret it and I urge you to NOT do it. See if you can handle this for 60 seconds: http://www.priestsforlife.org/resources/photosassorted/index2.htm
If you had a hard time... imagine having those images in nightmares knowing that was YOUR baby.
2007-01-21 15:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by babyboyandmama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had an abortion to please your boyfriend you would hate yourself. He wouldn't be there like you would want him to? TOUGH! You were there for him like HE wanted you, when you were in bed. Nothing against your boyfriend but what did he expect could happen by having sex? Pregnancy is a possibility. If he didn't expect he could be responsible for a baby, then easy solution...don't have sex.....but since you both did and now you are pregnant...he has to live up to that responsibility or face the consequences. Sometimes the very thing we don't want as an immature person, we discover later was the right thing to do. So, when it comes to the life of your child, I wouldn't abort a baby for what the man wants. He wants to erase his responsibilities but a child is not something you can erase. First that baby and then you will carry the responsibility of that decision for the rest of your life! Don't do it. Your heart will carry the burden.
2007-01-21 23:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by sheepinarowboat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a decision that only you can make. I know it is hard but you have to do what you feel in your heart. 12 years ago I was pregnant and the father of my child told me I was too young to have a child and that I should have an abortion. Not only was I 27 and he was 30, it was an easy way out for him. I have an awesome daughter and her dad (step) is the best thing and he loves her as his own. Because as we know anyone can be a father (or mother) but it takes someone pretty special to be mom and dad. Good luck and God Bless you!
2007-01-21 22:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by okkiegal 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he would not ask you to have an abortion. I would not recommend you expecting him to be there for you either if you decide to have the baby.
It is your body, it is your and your child's life.
You already know how you feel and feel guilty now by thinking about it, so I feel you do not really want to have an abortion and would be better off with the baby and tell the boyfriend to hit the road.
2007-01-21 22:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was in your exact same position at one point in my life. I too was single with two boys, pregnant again by a man who wanted me to abort. I refused. I am soo glad that I had my son! I went on to straighten out my life, devote it to God, find a wonderful man at church and marry him...he accepts all three of my children and loves them, and we actually want more. I know what it feels like to feel pressured and scared, but if you are against abortion and you do it just to please someone else, you will just bring pain to yourself. I too am/was against abortion, and am sooo glad to have all 3 of my boys. I can't imagine my life without each one of them!
2007-01-21 22:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by PennyPickles17 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look at your children, could you kill them? would you kill one of them right now for this man, if he told you he didn't want the responsiblity of your kids? Would you, kill one or both off to make him happy? Do you love him that much? I can tell you right now, he doesn't love you nearly as much as you want him to or he would never, ever ask such a thing. You are a survivor, mom of 2. you can be a survivor mom of 3, and find a great guy who loves you and all your children! hang in there! God Bless!
2007-01-21 22:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why are you taking it out on the baby because he's a jerk. If you kill this baby he wins no support no emotional scar and free to control u. now u have to live with the fact of killing your baby and hope he don't leave you, the scars, and the fact of having to tell your other kids mommy killed your brother or sister cause daddy wanted it that way. he wanted to play but not pay. NO MAN LOVES YOU THAT TELLS YOU TO KILL YOUR BABY.
2007-01-21 23:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about how you are going to look back on this time in your life, since it is a decision you will have to live with forever. It's too bad he's bailing out on you, but your decision should not have anything to do with "proving" anything to anyone. Be strong and make a decision that you can be proud of. Good luck.
2007-01-21 22:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by captainskully2000 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not to judge you. You have two kids. You're a "single" mom. Why on earth would you have unprotected sex? Does Aids ring a bell and other STDs! Think people, think!
So, your boyfriend will not be there for his baby. Why does that not surprise me. Your other options are adoption or keeping the baby to raise yourself. If you keep the baby make sure the court system make him pay for taking care of his own child. He's laying up with you for free. At least make sure he pays for something! Good grief.
2007-01-21 22:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by nala 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm so sorry that he is a JERK. He doesn't love you because, if he did he would be there for you and his child. I don't think I could have an abortion either. I hope it all works out for you.
2007-01-21 22:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋