Girls, how long would you wait for the "question" of marriage before you leave your boyfriend?

Question

Let's say you've been together for 1 or 2 years?
Things are not going anywhere...
You're just together under the same roof...

Well, my question is this:
How long would you wait before you leave your boyfriend when things are not going anywhere?
Things could be career, engagement, financial stability...
Anything that you can think of...
Would you still leave your boyfriend even though you still love him?

Answer 1

It depends on the situation and the threshold. Hold old are you? Are you in school? Working? Do you plan on getting married? It all depends. I think you limited your question.

Answer 2

Well first of all, you have to know if you both are wanting the same things. That should have been estabilshed before moving in together. Did you move into together without talking about this stuff with eachother?? If you did, that was completely stupid. From very, very recent personal experience....I just broke up with my fiance'....reason.....we moved into together both under the understanding it was to move toward marriage after a couple of things were taken care of...we got engaged 1 year after our first date....well, 9 months later there were still no wedding plans and nothing being done about the excuses that were being used to not make the plans, like financial stability......so I left. I loved him dearly and am very disappointed that he didn't take the initiative to take care of things so we could be together in marriage as planned. I also don't think anyone should give anyone an ultimatium......thats just forcing someone to do something they are not doing naturally. If you are not ready to step up and take the relationship further, then let her go so she can invest the time in someone who wants her as much she wants them. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

It depends on how old you both are. If under 21, you guys are way too young. If b/w 21 and 25 y/o you could probably wait up to 3 years.

If over 25, you guys should be mature enough to know what you want out of life and what each person's time frame is and if you both match up in these things. 2 years is plenty.
If he doesn't have a reasonable time frame in mind (like wait till he finishes school in a year or something), then drop him for your own protection (no matter how much you love him). Or else you'll end up like 95% of my girlfriends with a live in boyfriend... 7 years flying by.. no marriage and then you get dumped and have to start all over at age 35.
Plus you should find a guy who wants a future with you.

Answer 4

I am soooo glad you asked this question because I am in this situation right now!!! I have been with my "fiancee'" for 4 years now. He does not want to get married, I do. We have no kids...O.k. In the 4 years that I have been engaged (we have broken up twice) the second time it was because i wanted to get married and he got "scared". We own a home together...we have lived together ever since high school. I am 22, he is 21.....and if he does not marry me in the next 2 years I will leave simply because it shows doubt. I have never doubted the way I feel about him, i do not deserve someone who doubts the way they feel about me. It is setting yourself up for failure.
On the flip side, I do not think 1 or 2 years of dating is long enough to be together before getting married. I don't think you really start to get to know someone until 3 years or better......

Answer 5

I don't think that it's a question of leaving you're boyfriend. For someone to claim that 'the relationship is not going anywhere' would obviously be a more deep-seeded issue. It sounds like the other person has some self-insecurities, rather than a relationship problem. My solution>talk to this person more. Ask them what they want out of life. But no matter how bad things seem, they may not be dead-end. Just be patient.

Answer 6

Hi, I've been together with my boyfriend for 7 yrs. And I love him with all of my heart. And if we never get married that's just fine. It would not change my feeling for him. We are as happy as we were the first day we met. So I wouldn't worry about it. If it is really true love it doesn't matter if the was an piece of paper or not. Good Luck. And it will all work out if it was meant to be...

Answer 7

I would leave simply because I would need to clear my head. If I wanted to get married and he didn't, there is clearly a conflict. I don't believe in staying in a relationship and waiting until the other person is ready to get married. I can only imagine that that experiene would be painful. I say both people need to be ready at the same time. If anybody's hoping and waiting and the other person is fine with things the way they are, then the relationship needs to be put on hold and both parties need to decide whether they can agree about where the relationship is going.

Answer 8

Marriage is so over rated for this day and age in the world. Marriage, unless you are religious or very religious is almost a joke. It is a peice of paper that says here now you can go f**k and multiply as many times as you would like.
It is gr8 if you are both going to stay faithful and love each other forever, but how many times do you know of that happening? Really think about it, and if your living together and you have kids or whatever~ it is not right for everyone and no one should be forced into a legal marriage bcuz the other one wants it. Buy her a ring and tell people your married how do they know the difference?

Answer 9

You are asking girls but that question is an easy one for men too. If you are fully intimate with him, why would be want to marry? He already has what us men desire. It is true that sometimes a couple will be intimate before marriage and fully intend on marrying soon. Waiting over 2 years is not usually the thing to do. If he does not know you enough in 2 years to make up his mind then seek family to help.. if that does not work, you need a real man! God bless. Earl

Answer 10

That is kind of a funny question for me. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. We live together and share a bank account. Basically, we live like we are married. Personally, I am not waiting. I just graduated nursing school and would like to get my masters. Right now everything is great and it seems that since we are happy, and just starting out, that marriage is one extra stressor we just don't need. We have talked about it. We know that we will. I would just want get it right once and take our time so when it does happen it will last. I do not want to be another statistic. I hope that answers your qustion.

Answer 11

It depends on your ages. I always thought, when I was truely ready, I would expect engagement anytime after 1 year, but wouldnt start to complain or contemplate leaving until 2 years. But that was when I was in my later 20s. I would have waited longer if I were under 25. Hope this helps! Good luck!