Is it normal to feel like having another baby when mine is 14mons, i havent lost my baby weight yet either?

Question

but i would like to have another one! Im 28 and think i want to have three!

Answer 1

I don't think there is a problem with it. If you can provide another child with a healthy loving life then why not.

It is always important to take whatever steps you can to be healthy, but while you are pregnant it is even more important: not only do you need to take good care of yourself, you are also profoundly affecting the life of another person – your baby. Here's 7 tips to help you along the way.

1.If you smoke, one of the most important things you can do is to stop smoking: babies born to mothers who smoke have a lower average birth weight, are more likely to be born prematurely, and are at greater risk of death from sudden infant death syndrome than babies of non-smokers. Sometimes mothers feel having a low birth weight baby could be an advantage as it will make the baby easy to deliver. This is not necessarily the case, as it may lead to an emergency delivery, which can result in all sorts of complications. Even if you are already pregnant, stopping smoking will benefit the baby for the rest of your pregnancy. It is not only the baby who benefits. You are likely to suffer from less morning sickness, experience fewer complications and have a more contented baby after the birth.

2. It is also important to pay attention to your diet. Many women feel they should ‘eat for two', but research has shown that women only need an extra 200-300 calories a day while pregnant, and you may be eating those extra calories anyway. What is important is to ensure that you get the protein, vitamins and minerals necessary to build another human being. Those extra 200-300 calories should not be squandered on chocolate or crisps, but should be eaten as fruit, vegetables, etc. It is also important to increase your water intake, which will help avoid constipation.

3. It is generally a good idea to take a good quality multivitamin and mineral supplement too. There are now ones specially formulated for pregnant women. Ideally these should be started before you become pregnant, so that you are in the best shape possible for the pregnancy, and then continued throughout your pregnancy. An adequate supply of vitamins and minerals is important right from conception. For example, a deficiency of one of the B vitamins, folic acid, in the first month of pregnancy may lead to the baby being born with a cleft lip, congenital heart disease or spina bifida. Omega-3 fatty acids (obtained by eating oily fish, flaxseed oil, walnuts, spinach and spirulina, or taken as a supplement) are important for the development of the baby's eyes and brain. Omega-3 also reduces the risk of premature birth and post-natal depression.

4. Nobody knows how much alcohol it is safe to consume during pregnancy, so many health experts feel it is better to avoid alcohol entirely for the sake of the baby. This can seem hard on the pregnant woman when everyone else is drinking, but it is important to remember that alcohol is a poison for the growing baby, and no caring mother willingly gives her baby poison.

5. Pregnancy is not a time to sit still. Although adequate rest is vitally important, most experts believe that healthy pregnant women should be taking 30 minutes of moderate exercise every day.

6. It is also important to minimise exposure to toxic chemicals while pregnant, so spending a lot of time painting the house and laying new carpets is not a good idea, especially in the early stages of pregnancy when the baby is particularly vulnerable.

7. Many women find pregnancy stressful, and this can be a particularly good time to turn to safe, non-invasive options such as Bach flower remedies, homeopathy, kinesiology and other therapies.

Making a new life is something miraculous. Doing the best you can for that new life starts long before you have the baby in your arms for the first time.

Answer 2

Girl, you need to take a huge breath and take a step back. Your parents need to lay off on you about the abortion! You're 21 weeks, if you abort now that innocent baby will feel so much pain! I'm okay with women aborting in the 1st trimester, but the 2nd trimester is just too painful for me to even hear. Yes, there are medical reasons, but I still feel bad for the little one. You should not get the abortion for the sake of your parents! If you want that baby, you keep the baby. There is always adoption, but I know it's a hard choice to do that as well. As for everything else going on, you need a counselor. Many women become depressed while pregnant. I did so I got myself counseling and it helped me a great deal. You can also leave that high school and take online high school classes to avoid all those problems. Those "friends" of yours are not friends. Those other kids have no right in calling you names and such when they're most likely off doing drugs and screwing everyone in sight. I did not forget what it is like being a teen, I'm 23. The majority of teens are experimenting with drugs or sexual activity. Your situation breaks my heart and if you were my child, I would NEVER force you into an abortion and I would get you the help you need. You need it, you were raped and now pregnant along with being hurt by other people. Please get some help and look at your options. Your parents cannot force you to abort, that is your choice alone. Tell them you are on the verge of losing everything and they need to find you a counselor. Good luck! *hug* Edit: See if your high school offers online courses. Most of them do so you can take your classes online. You would not switch schools, just stay at home to do your school work. If your grade slips a little, say it does, you will still go to college. Yes, you're in a tough situation and your plans have been shattered, but this is where you can create a new path for yourself with your baby in your life. It's not going to be easy, that is why I mentioned counseling. You will need professional help along the way and your parents need to get a grip and help you. Not bring you down.

Answer 3

My little girl just turned 18 months and I'm due in 2 weeks. My mom had me and my brother 14 months apart. I had just lost all my baby weight when I got pregnant this time. Kind of depressing really didn't even get to enjoy being small again. But most never lose the weight from their 1st child before having another one before having another one. Some never lose the weight. I say when you want another baby your want another baby. Everyone is different.

Answer 4

That is totally normal. You are on cloud 9 from having your first baby and you are ready for another. Obviously you've had a good first experience so far and you are ready for another. You are ready to love another child the way you love the one you have now. I had the same exact feeling! My daughter was 6 months old and I was ready to start trying again. If you are ready, then go for it. Plus, if you want 3, why not start trying now? Go for it and enjoy it!

Answer 5

I always suffered from "baby fever" when my kids were about to turn one. Infact, we announced we were pregnant with #2 at my son's first birthday party. LOL

We had our twins 2 days before our daughter (#2) turned 2 years old.

I think it is perfectly normally to be wanting to have another baby now. Kids grow so fast, sometimes it is hard to remember them when they were newborns. Sometimes we just miss having one around the house. You'll know when it is the right time to have another one though. You won't be able to think about anything else ;)

Answer 6

Human beings are actually "programed" to have children about every two years. It's part of our survival instict left over from days gone by when the human race needed to reproduce rapidly in order to survive. (there have been many studies done to prove this). You just seem to be a bit ahead of the program lol. Then again there is research supporting that women feel the need to reproduce again when their body has healed completely from previous childbirth (generally speaking it takes about 2 years), so perhaps you are just quicker at healing than most. :)

Answer 7

Yes, it is normal. It's better to have them 2 to 2 1/2 years apart, because they can play better together. They will really enjoy each other and you will enjoy them. If you are ready, go for it!!!

Answer 8

yes its normal expecially at your age. mine r 21 months apart and do just fine. I lost 50 pounds having my child, so i had no baby fat just lots of my own.

Answer 9

my son is 14 months and i am 7 months pregnant with my second. i didn't lose all my baby weight either. what's the point, it's all for vanity. once you get past that, who cares.