Upset when I say no but it turns me off him sexually. What should I do? Its putting a damper on our sex life.
2007-01-21 14:26:27 · 9 answers · asked by Sexy_Lizzy85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are not comfortable with something, then he should be more respectul of your wishes.
2007-01-21 14:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it depends on what we're talking about here. If it's just a different position, maybe dressing up or something, I would try it.
If it's something you really feel uncomfortable with, discuss it with him when you're not being intimate. Sometimes men get "caught up in the moment", and he will be more receptive to your point of view when you're just talking.
Bottom Line for me is: If you are that put off by it, don't do it. And I wouldn't want to hear you should try it to make him happy. He shouldn't be pressuring you to do weird things, knowing how unhappy it makes YOU.
Good Luck!
2007-01-21 14:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by redhead77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance was the same way. I just sat him down one day and told him that I'll make a compromise with him. He asked on what. And I told him that I wasn't into all the freaky stuff and lingerie that he liked so well. So I told him that I would do one thing he liked if he would do something I liked. He added to it by saying neither one of us could complain... But we've been fine since then. Try working out a compromise with him. You will get what you want and he will get what he wants.
2007-01-21 14:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as it doesn't involve the family dog, or a gerbil, what's the problem?? Variety is a big turn on. As long as it isn't gonna do physical harm to you, ya might find out that you like something more than even he does!! If ya don't like it, at least ya tried and ya move on to something else. Just make sure YOUR needs are being met as well.
2007-01-21 14:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by partyboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off "you need to please your husband because their is another woman out their filling out her application him and if your not fullfilling his fantasies someone else would be happy to"
THAT is bullshit.
Your goal in life is not to please your husband this is not the 1950's people. Whatever you are doing you should always be comfortable doing it regardless. He should not get upset he has no reason to. He should be concerned about your feelings and not so much about him getting his rocks off. Bottom line if you don't like it don't do it.
2007-01-21 14:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by freakNpink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could tell him you will do it if he does it too, and have him wear a bailarina dress or something of the sort...
If you don't want to use reverse psychology your just going to have to stick with saying "No" plain and simple.
2007-01-21 14:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no! You might want to ask him where he is learning all that stuff from anyway.
2007-01-21 14:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compromise. You do him a favor once in a while, then he does one for you. As long as it's not WAY gross.
2007-01-21 14:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do all guys crave? We'll personally i believe all guys love a nice bj =]
2007-01-21 14:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan D 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you need to please your husband because their is another woman out their filling out her application him and if your not fullfilling his fantasies someone else would be happy to
2007-01-21 14:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by u2ugly2nv18 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋